Do not cry, do not fear, do not ask. The price of insensibility Bashny.Net

Complete control over emotions – is not this a desirable skill for most people? Staunchly to withstand smirk of fate, not to feel the mental anguish, not to bend and not to break under all the blows of fate and people. To be that kind of invincible samurai with the impenetrable face.

Without emotions live very profitable:

• You can calmly do business: “Nothing personal, it's just business, baby.”
• Stick with logic and well-organize your life. To do what is important, necessary and right. To enroll in the right COLLEGE, marry the right person, to work where they pay well.

 

Just why then this longing inside? emptiness can never be filled...

 

This sense of lack, deprivation, and enduring hunger.

The price of a senseless high - life by half. As if suddenly disappeared, the smells and sounds. Was formerly, but not now. You can live. But something was constantly missing. As if some important part of the person stopped.





The decision not to feel comes at different ages.

To someone in childhood. To stop feeling, to freeze – becomes for the child the only way to survive. Not to sail from experiencing pain and horror, he ”fastens up the volume” of the senses, and leaves the sensor in the same position for life. For safety.

As an adult, people can not get satisfaction, nothing satisfies. He is looking for something. Once you understand that looking for and can't find the lost part of himself, begins to restore the ability to enjoy, to experience pleasure, something to really want.

The decision to numb out feelings, to push all your feelings to hell, accepted and in adulthood – as a reaction to the experienced pain, loss, disappointment. “I never!” Not love, not let anybody in your soul, don't trust, don't be an idiot. All, thank you, too painful. I know it is bad, and will not go there anymore.

And life begins in the suit, the armor of self protection, without permission yourself to experience something. With a huge emptiness inside.

 

To be alive is a big risk.

 

We are afraid of feelings. They make us vulnerable.





Many of us have learned many tricks to not enter the zone of the senses, not to live them with full force:

Quickly get distracted and start to do something, no matter what.

Not to realize what was happening and let yourself go through it, to allay the excitement through action.

Quickly switch to something else and go into the vanity. This allows us not to meet with strong emotions, and not to decide important questions for themselves.

In society it is believed that “keeping busy is the best remedy for depression”.

Many people fall into a state similar to drug addiction from their cases, unconsciously seeking to ensure that they have no time for “unnecessary thoughts”.

To drink, to eat, to smoke.

To relieve tension, not even realizing that caused alarm, which rose for a second before a sharp desire to push himself – to pour, push or breathe.

All forms of addictions – alcoholism, Smoking and overeating is the usual protection mechanisms of emotions, which an individual prefers not to understand and not to live. Methods the reaction of emotions.

To buy something. “Deepthroat” next “right thing”.

To drown out at least for a time your emotional hunger and to “feed” the anxiety.

To have sex.

In this case, his own body or the body of the partner is perceived simply as an object for manipulation. The role of the other as human beings in this process is very low – it's just used like a drug to soothe.

To find the man to which could be attached.

Like a child looking for a mother that will take care of it and fill it with love, so many people are looking for this maternal or paternal object to the outside. Like Chicks in the nest, their mouths are always open and they are waiting for constant help, support and participation in my life. And here we frequently hear the frustration and accusations that “he or she doesn't care about me, do not appreciate and do not like”.

Respond to the shame, fear, guilt through aggression.

Aggressive outbreak helps to let off steam, to relieve tension. But the problem, for solving which the voltage has risen, not solved. All the energy goes into nothing.
As the body's temperature to defeat harmful germs and psyche raises the voltage to tackle the identity problem. But instead use the energy on the awareness and solution of the problem, the temperature shot down, and the steam produced in anywhere. Until the next attack.

The habit is not fully aware of feelings leads to the fact that people do not recognize mental threat.

It just increases the need for drugs, food, cigarettes, alcohol.

It so happens that even to hear your own alarm people. They think that everything is fine, just want to drink and eat and their own anxious thoughts and feelings they don't hear. And therefore to do anything to change the situation, they can't.

 

Our emotions is not only a reaction of the psyche but also the body's response. any emotion is accompanied by certain sensations in the body.





The human body seriously is included in the rate of each emotion.

Drowning out the psyche, we are forcing the body to Express these emotions for two. Thus is formed a psychosomatic symptom.

if people can't afford to live emotions through the psyche, he will have to live with the help of the body.





All psychosomatic symptoms is superseded, “not allowed” emotions.

Many times repeated, they form a psychosomatic illness.

Doctors distinguish the list of psychosomatic diseases, the so-called “Chicago seven diseases”: hypertension, ischemic heart disease, bronchial asthma, peptic ulcer and duodenal ulcer, ulcerative colitis, hyperthyroidism, diabetes mellitus.

These are diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is leading. But more and more therapists are inclined to believe that the decision to root or not to root for any disease lies with the individual.

 

But sometimes psychological defense against emotions so intense that one does not give even the opportunity to the body to be ill – though as-that to live repressed feelings.





And then, as the boiling kettle, the lid of which was screwed into the nuts, there is an explosion.
Sudden death from strokes, heart attacks, for no apparent reason discovered the cancer at the last stage, a seemingly healthy and young people is always a shock.

Price insensitivity becomes life.

Why we created sentient. And this our ability and feature us not to separate. That is our nature.





While we feel we are alive.published

 

Author: Irina Dubova

 

 

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