«Everyone has narcissistic traits. Narcissism helps us to define their own interests ("it is valuable to me, so that I would pursue") and recognize its positive qualities ("I - a man thrust, so go to the goal"). It can even save you from bad situations ("these relationships make me suffer, it's time to finish them, you can not put up with it»). »
blockquote> Our behavior and reactions to narcissism can tell a lot about us. In a long article of the magazine «Forbes» of Self says that we all want public recognition:
«The cultural phenomenon of self reflects a very simple human desire - to be noticed, appreciated and acknowledged. Just a few likes to friends in social networks reveal fundamental aspects of human psychology. Approval can help in the work - when people feel strange confession, they repeat the behavior approved. »
blockquote> According conducted ten years ago, a study led by the recognition of a list of things that employees want from employers. More than 79% of employees quit their jobs because of lack of satisfaction. And from the people who are satisfied with their work, 94, 4% believe that managers appreciate them highly.
This is true not only for work but also for a personal relationship. According to a survey aims to identify the biggest problems in the marriage, 65% of those surveyed believe serious grounds for divorce "communication problems." Men were most unhappy whining or complaints (70%) and in second place was undervalued (60%). Women complained that "men are not more important than their feelings and opinions" (83%).
We are all a little bit selfish, for all of us an important recognition and approval of others. Since technical progress now enables us to expand our circle of friends, of course, that the recognition of friends in social networks is so important. And there is nothing wrong.
How to turn empathy and self-centeredness to pay him on polzu
If we understand the difference between the lungs narcissistic qualities and clinical narcissism, you can turn these qualities to their advantage. First you need to admit to ourselves that we crave the approval of others: at work, in personal relationships or on the Internet.
Next you need to understand that it is normal and natural. Do not reproach yourself, but consider how you behaved. As the people who you are looking for recognition, you react? How did they treat you? You feel that they are kind to you or just putting up with your existence?
If you feel that you have recently become selfish, just do something good. Jill explains that the actions aimed at someone else's well-being, helping us to move beyond their own little world. Jill offers the next time when you go to the store to buy food themselves and need to spend a little man on the street. You and make a good deed, and is guaranteed to become the hero of this story. And in your life is the person you have helped. If the extra money you do not, then there are other ways to help those in need.
Of course, true altruism - it is when you do something just like that, without waiting for this award. However, this does not happen: at least you are making yourself a "credit good deeds" and feel good, so it's not entirely altruistic, but rather disguised selfishness.
Narcissistic quality can even be used to put yourself in the other person. For starters learn to listen. Practice active listening: do not mind, do not accept and do not start talking about yourself. Listen to the story of another person, and recognize that this time it is about him, not about you. If you manage to put yourself in his place and imagine what you would feel yourself in such a situation.
In the end, self-centeredness and narcissism grow into empathy - one of the most important skills for a person securing our relationship with other people. It's hard to always be sensitive, especially when you're surrounded by people who constantly demands your time and attention. But show a little sympathy is not as difficult as you make sure that your life is something important, and besides you.