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Just do not try to control everything

People have a deep psychological need to feel that the universe is controllable, or at least predictable. As a species, we convince ourselves that we can influence the random events, psychologists call this "illusion of control". The good news is that, in a sense, you can "improve your luck».

For starters, forget about the impact on the outcome of truly random events, such as throwing a coin or a lottery. You should also avoid trying to create their own luck by focusing on the results that you desire. Psychologists study Gabrielle Oettingen and Doris Meyer shows that the more a man fantasizes about getting a good job, the less money he earns as a result, perhaps, because fantasy replaces the efforts he could apply in the real world.

"Luck" - an ambiguous term. We use it to describe the pure randomness of life, but also to explain the appearance of those features that are necessary at some point. Uncover yourself to new people and events, and you will have a much better chance to meet his future employer - or the love of life - than if you sit at home. The best approach - no point focusing on what you want, and the development of radical openness to experience unplanned, weakening control over the achievement of targets and the uncertainty.

Uncertainty makes us feel uncomfortable, so it is tempting to do everything we can to get rid of it. But patience can bring you more good luck. Do not dispose of your daily schedule, but make sure there is a gap in it for unexpected things. Spend an hour in the bookstore, invite casual friend for coffee. In social networks subscribe to people whose passions have not yet separated. Allow extra time for assignments, for which performance may require spontaneous detours.

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