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Why in old age we become a burden for our own children and can this be changed?
The eternal problem is fathers and children. Today's edition. "Site" I decided to raise one of the most difficult issues of all time. How to treat parentsNot to be abandoned by your own children in old age. After all, the history of each family is unique and there is no single method of upbringing.
When our children are young, we often cannot be alone. They constantly demand our attention and presence. It’s hard to do your own thing when a child follows you and asks a thousand questions a minute. Some parents shrug off, some try to find the answer to every question. Modern parents from infancy cram a phone or tablet into the hands of a child. They are thus separated from the child. Older generations also cannot boast of the constant presence of parents nearby. Our moms and dads worked, often in shifts in factories, and physically couldn't be around.
On the street or in other public places very often you can meet lonely old people. They are forced to live their lives alone. Children and grandchildren can live nearby. It is very rare to call or visit your elderly parents. So what's the reason why such right parents have become completely unnecessary? We can only guess the main reason for this change in attitude. Of course, very often plays the role of family education, the traditions and principles that were in a particular family.
It is not necessary that children stop loving their parents. The cycle of life situations distances from each other once the most loved and necessary people. In pursuit of a better standard of living, we all forget about simple and valuable things. Young people aged 20 to 40 years want to catch all the most valuable things from life. It is at this time that life seems too short to waste. No one thinks or wants to think about the end of their lives.
Very often from young parents you can hear the phrase that grandparents climb with their methods of upbringing. They are no longer fashionable or relevant. And only after a while we understand that the life wisdom of a mother can be very useful even in the modern world. But this realization comes much later, when stuffing the bumps of your own experience, you return to the experience of generations. Therefore, parents often choose a position of non-interference in the lives of their adult children. They prefer to be lonely and think that they interfere with the younger generation.
In Europe and America, older parents go to nursing homes. There they receive proper care, communication and entertainment. And in Asian countries, older parents act as servants and cannot even sit down at the dinner table with their children and grandchildren. Each country and nationality has its own traditions and rules. Among the Slavic peoples, the head of the family was always considered the oldest member of the family. His advice was listened to and consulted in making important decisions.
As the old saying goes: “In old age, do not freeze from frost.” You do not need to breathe cold on your children.” Very often, a child just needs to hear that they are valued, appreciated and loved. And then the adult child will not leave his mother or father to live out his life alone. Even in the most difficult times, you need to find at least half an hour of time a day, just be with your child, listen to him and support him. Call your parents every day just to hear their voice.
What do you think about parents and whether they should be examined in old age? Write your opinion in the comments. Share your experience in raising children.
When our children are young, we often cannot be alone. They constantly demand our attention and presence. It’s hard to do your own thing when a child follows you and asks a thousand questions a minute. Some parents shrug off, some try to find the answer to every question. Modern parents from infancy cram a phone or tablet into the hands of a child. They are thus separated from the child. Older generations also cannot boast of the constant presence of parents nearby. Our moms and dads worked, often in shifts in factories, and physically couldn't be around.
On the street or in other public places very often you can meet lonely old people. They are forced to live their lives alone. Children and grandchildren can live nearby. It is very rare to call or visit your elderly parents. So what's the reason why such right parents have become completely unnecessary? We can only guess the main reason for this change in attitude. Of course, very often plays the role of family education, the traditions and principles that were in a particular family.
It is not necessary that children stop loving their parents. The cycle of life situations distances from each other once the most loved and necessary people. In pursuit of a better standard of living, we all forget about simple and valuable things. Young people aged 20 to 40 years want to catch all the most valuable things from life. It is at this time that life seems too short to waste. No one thinks or wants to think about the end of their lives.
Very often from young parents you can hear the phrase that grandparents climb with their methods of upbringing. They are no longer fashionable or relevant. And only after a while we understand that the life wisdom of a mother can be very useful even in the modern world. But this realization comes much later, when stuffing the bumps of your own experience, you return to the experience of generations. Therefore, parents often choose a position of non-interference in the lives of their adult children. They prefer to be lonely and think that they interfere with the younger generation.
In Europe and America, older parents go to nursing homes. There they receive proper care, communication and entertainment. And in Asian countries, older parents act as servants and cannot even sit down at the dinner table with their children and grandchildren. Each country and nationality has its own traditions and rules. Among the Slavic peoples, the head of the family was always considered the oldest member of the family. His advice was listened to and consulted in making important decisions.
As the old saying goes: “In old age, do not freeze from frost.” You do not need to breathe cold on your children.” Very often, a child just needs to hear that they are valued, appreciated and loved. And then the adult child will not leave his mother or father to live out his life alone. Even in the most difficult times, you need to find at least half an hour of time a day, just be with your child, listen to him and support him. Call your parents every day just to hear their voice.
What do you think about parents and whether they should be examined in old age? Write your opinion in the comments. Share your experience in raising children.
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