Should an elderly parent be sent to a nursing home? Bashny.Net

Moral and legal norms oblige parents to take care of their child until the age of majority. However, there is no law that requires children to take care of their parent after they reach retirement age.

The decision on whether to look after an elderly mother or father, the young man makes on his own, based on his life values and taking into account practical opportunities.

Who is right: the one who sacrifices his work and personal life for the sake of being constantly with an old person, or the one who helps a pensioner get a job in a nursing home?





It is believed that children should take care of parents in the same way that parents took care of children when they were young. Let’s analyze: maternity leave lasts a maximum of three years, then the child either goes to kindergarten, or stays with a nanny, and then goes to school. The pensioner also needs to be close to him for more than three years.

Care for a pensioner includes the mandatory provision of medical care. Young mothers usually call a doctor for their young child. But then, when they get older, for some reason, they expect the opposite from their child: that they become competent in health matters and treat their severe or chronic diseases on their own.

Not even realizing that self-medication could cost them their lives. They remember how they put their children in the hands of nannies and nurses, and they themselves went to work, but when they are now offered a nurse, they refuse.



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Refer to the statistics collected in foreign countries. In the United States, only 3% of older Americans live in nursing homes. This was evidenced by the 2010 census.

Most of America’s lonely old men and women choose home care with the means. At first, they react to a nursing home in the same way that children react to kindergarten.

In 2007, an estimated 12 million Americans needed long-term care. Approximately 63% of them were over 65 years old, the rest were younger.



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They needed the following help and services.

1. Qualified nurses.
2. Physiotherapy specialists.
3. Assistance in household management (house cleaning and personal care).
4. Specialist geriatricians.
5. Wound care.
6. Dietary counseling and preparation of special nutrition.

Few people can meet such specific needs on their own. Therefore, they think about a nurse, a person who can provide qualified assistance. But the nurse needs to pay a high salary. And when there is enough money only for groceries and utilities, this is out of the question.



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It's a tough decision to make. Consider all the pros and cons of staying a sick pensioner in a nursing home.

1. Security
   When a person is not able to provide for his household needs, the usual things that he used before can cause him injury. We are talking about sharp objects, household chemicals, gas and electrical appliances. In addition, a person with disabilities is a potential victim of fraudsters. In a nursing home, all these risks are minimized.
   
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2. Scheduled life
   In nursing homes, life goes on schedule: a clear regime of the day, meals, social events. This has a positive effect on the organization of the healing process. But at the same time creates a sense of predetermined future or limited freedom.
   
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3. Active social life
   Staying in a nursing home, the pensioner has the opportunity to communicate with people like him, with peers. Being constantly confined to its four walls, it has no connection with the world. In a nursing home, a pensioner feels like a member of society, leading an active lifestyle to the best of his abilities.
   
   At the same time, relatives can come to such a person at least every day and devote several hours between work and caring for young children to him.
   
   
   
   
   
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4. Round-the-clock care
   In a nursing home, an elderly person can provide medical and domestic assistance around the clock at the first need or at the first request. Adult children who spend most of the day at work, earning a living for both themselves and their elderly parent, may be directly near the pensioner for only a few hours a day. And then quickly bring him to the grave. After all, if a sick person is not cared for, his illnesses will progress.
   
   
   
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5. Determined cost of services
   If a nursing home is paid, and they do not take it to a free one, then staying in it can cost a penny. But that's okay. After all, any highly qualified assistance costs money.
   
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Home for the elderly It is created in every city because it is necessary. There would be no elderly people in need of help, there would be no such institutions. It is time to start treating their existence calmly.

Home for the lonely elderly It becomes their salvation. These are people who have no relatives. Such people have the right to stay in a nursing home for free. But the decision to settle in it should still be taken independently. The last word is always left to the pensioner.

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