How to achieve harmony in the family Bashny.Net

For a child, his parents are real superheroes. But, like any hero, the child chooses his beloved. And in the first place is often the mother - a person who pays more attention to the baby, often cares, feeds, plays. Always busy dad. It usually takes a back seat.

And this happens even in families of young, educated and rather progressive parents. Dads almost do not participate in the life of the baby, but they feel like superheroes even when they change their son’s diaper once a week.





Young fathers think that, except for the mother, the baby does not need anyone. “I cannot breastfeed him,” the head of the family convinces himself and hastily leaves on business. But there are many ways to communicate closely with the baby in the first days: bathing, dressing, games, walking and even talking, because babies, although they do not talk, but feel and understand a lot.





“Mother affects the child with kindness and affection. And Dad teaches you to be strong, courageous, persistent and purposeful. In addition, the participation of both parents in the process of upbringing gives the child a sense of security and well-being, says Ukrainian psychologist Oksana Kovalenko.





Our women often take on all the care of the child, not allowing the father to show parenting. Although it is possible to distribute duties fairly, given that the efforts of both mother and father are equally important for the full development of the child.





However, real-life It's different. The father is always busy with his own affairs, and when he helps in caring for a child, he hears from all sides: “What a good man, he helps his wife.” And he believes he's good. And friends say that caring for children is exclusively a woman's business. He's not, he helps.





“Well, the husband sits with a crumb on the weekends,” the young mother unsteadily defends her husband. But sitting on weekends is not enough. A man becomes a father not when he has the time and desire to play or walk with a child, and not when he changes the baby’s diaper once a week. Fatherhood is a day-to-day thing, just like motherhood. There's nothing we can do about it.





Taking care of the child - a matter of two. Apart from breast-feeding, there is not a single job that a father cannot do while caring for a baby. So maybe it's time for daddies to stop being just helpers and become full-fledged parents who are fully involved in the baby's life?





It depends on the parents how their child will grow up. Will he become an independent and purposeful person or will he be a pathetic lazy person? Will the baby find his purpose in life and become happy or will he struggle with trials all his life?

This foundation is laid by parents in the first years of a baby’s life, and there is a greater chance of success when they do it together.