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What Older People Love to Talk About
Everyone wants to be on good terms with the closest people. However, in life this simple desire is broken about misunderstanding and mutual resentment. As a result, close people only move away from each other. Even when it comes to adult children and their elderly parents.
Editorial "Site" We are sure that even damaged relations can be improved, if, of course, not to make previous mistakes. Especially when it comes to errors in communication with elderly relatives.
Arguments are often provoked not by the elderly, but by those who care for them. This is because caring for an elderly person is difficult both physically and morally. And tired children themselves look for a reason for conflict to throw out irritation. At the same time, parents, perfectly feeling our weaknesses, always know how painful it is to respond, says psychiatrist Grigory Gorshunin.
Therefore, the specialist recommends not to start a conversation at all if you feel tired or irritated, because it is unlikely that something good will come out of such a conversation. Better postpone. communication with older parents for later. And if you constantly feel hostility, it is better to find yourself a helper or stock up on sedatives.
As for the topics for discussion, it is worth highlighting talk. Such memories for an elderly person are one of the most pleasant, because he gets the opportunity to at least mentally transfer into the past and feel younger. At this time, his interlocutor can take the position of an observer and enjoy the conversation.
Good, too. talk upOne way or another relates to a person’s previous work. On such topics, everyone has so much information that enough for long hours of conversation. And quite informative.
A completely trouble-free topic can be called conversations about the lives of grandchildren, their successes and future. You should not argue or try to impose your point of view, just listen. You might wonder about yourself, though.
It is useful to raise topics in which older relatives feel competent. This is the case, for example, when you talk about your ancestors, when you're flipping through a family album together. We can also talk about construction, plant care, cooking...
You can talk about the good things in your personal life, because your parents are always happy for you. Although the problems should not be frank – this can turn the conversation into a negative direction.
“It is important to be a researcher — to explore, but not to argue. Then you can talk about anything, says the author of the book “Mother do not grieve” Alexander Galitsky.
Nice conversation. One of the greatest pleasures that can be given to an elderly person. And on a topic he likes, he can talk endlessly in detail and for a long time. But then the interlocutor needs to be able not only to start and conduct such conversations correctly, but also to finish correctly. After abruptly interrupting the conversation, you can offend a loved one.
Therefore, you should either change the topic of conversation - usually elderly interlocutors perceive it painlessly, and then leave against the background of fading conversation. Or refer to circumstances beyond your control – an important meeting or an urgent matter that cannot be postponed. It is even better if you are able to warn about your departure in advance.
But no matter how carefully we try to comply. rules of communication with parentsThere's no way to avoid minor offenses. And then you need to learn how to react correctly to the reproaches of older mothers and fathers.
It should be understood that they are us in 20-30 years, and therefore we should not be offended and rush with caustic accusations in response. After all, it is better to hold back for a couple of seconds to continue to enjoy communication than to be rude in response and then feel guilty.
Editorial "Site" We are sure that even damaged relations can be improved, if, of course, not to make previous mistakes. Especially when it comes to errors in communication with elderly relatives.
Arguments are often provoked not by the elderly, but by those who care for them. This is because caring for an elderly person is difficult both physically and morally. And tired children themselves look for a reason for conflict to throw out irritation. At the same time, parents, perfectly feeling our weaknesses, always know how painful it is to respond, says psychiatrist Grigory Gorshunin.
Therefore, the specialist recommends not to start a conversation at all if you feel tired or irritated, because it is unlikely that something good will come out of such a conversation. Better postpone. communication with older parents for later. And if you constantly feel hostility, it is better to find yourself a helper or stock up on sedatives.
As for the topics for discussion, it is worth highlighting talk. Such memories for an elderly person are one of the most pleasant, because he gets the opportunity to at least mentally transfer into the past and feel younger. At this time, his interlocutor can take the position of an observer and enjoy the conversation.
Good, too. talk upOne way or another relates to a person’s previous work. On such topics, everyone has so much information that enough for long hours of conversation. And quite informative.
A completely trouble-free topic can be called conversations about the lives of grandchildren, their successes and future. You should not argue or try to impose your point of view, just listen. You might wonder about yourself, though.
It is useful to raise topics in which older relatives feel competent. This is the case, for example, when you talk about your ancestors, when you're flipping through a family album together. We can also talk about construction, plant care, cooking...
You can talk about the good things in your personal life, because your parents are always happy for you. Although the problems should not be frank – this can turn the conversation into a negative direction.
“It is important to be a researcher — to explore, but not to argue. Then you can talk about anything, says the author of the book “Mother do not grieve” Alexander Galitsky.
Nice conversation. One of the greatest pleasures that can be given to an elderly person. And on a topic he likes, he can talk endlessly in detail and for a long time. But then the interlocutor needs to be able not only to start and conduct such conversations correctly, but also to finish correctly. After abruptly interrupting the conversation, you can offend a loved one.
Therefore, you should either change the topic of conversation - usually elderly interlocutors perceive it painlessly, and then leave against the background of fading conversation. Or refer to circumstances beyond your control – an important meeting or an urgent matter that cannot be postponed. It is even better if you are able to warn about your departure in advance.
But no matter how carefully we try to comply. rules of communication with parentsThere's no way to avoid minor offenses. And then you need to learn how to react correctly to the reproaches of older mothers and fathers.
It should be understood that they are us in 20-30 years, and therefore we should not be offended and rush with caustic accusations in response. After all, it is better to hold back for a couple of seconds to continue to enjoy communication than to be rude in response and then feel guilty.
