Why early childhood schools are up to the light bulb, but only please their mothers Bashny.Net

Early childhood education It should be on the shoulders of loving parents. But busy moms and dads are happy to shift their duties to a variety of specialists, hire tutors for the child, take him to various courses or give him to uninteresting sports sections for the child.

Already from an early age, the child is trying to “load” as much as possible so that at school he was the smartest and first in everything. But often the opposite happens. And then parents begin to look for the root of the problem, not realizing that it is hiding in themselves.



I feel sorry for the young children who are brought to my courses. These kids should be playing snowballs and sculpting snowmen. But parents do not have time to engage in such “stupidity”. They believe that the child should always be engaged in something useful and developing. And only make it worse, writes English teacher Margarita.



“I am afraid that all the educators and early development specialists will immediately attack me. But I am sure that all these super-early activities, except those to which the child himself runs with pleasure, only cause harm.”

“You know, my grandmother gave me a lot, a lot of money, but I gave it to my mother, because my father does not give money to my mother,” the second grader sadly told me. I was confused by this information, but did not give the appearance, switched the child’s attention to the game. My mother was sitting behind the glass smiling at us. At that moment I thought it would be much more useful for her to spend this hour playing with her son.”

“I was once asked to work with a boy from a wealthy family. They lived in a three-story mansion with a bunch of servants. Each of the children had a governess. In the state there were guards, and a personal driver, and a cook.



"The child's problem It was just that I was listening to him. He did not consider servants to be full-fledged people, and his parents treated him the way he treated servants. No wonder he couldn’t make friends at school. And here you feel especially useless. You can't even stay for half an hour. Since immediately after you and the child will be engaged in a new tutor, then another ...

“All these “caring” parents proudly claim that their child does not have a free moment, that he is constantly busy. From the age of two he is taken to preparatory courses, at the age of three he is forced to learn English, at 5 he is given to football or judo.



Such mothers and fathers are sure that this is exactly what is called upbringing. They don’t really know what to do with the baby. They don’t understand how to play with him, how to chew some basic things. They do not understand how to explain to him what is good and what is bad, how to behave and how to be friends. They may not know that themselves.”

But the main problem is that parents do not understand that a healthy child’s psyche for his future is much more necessary and useful than the set of skills that he receives through force to the first grade.

“A 15-year-old girl was brought to me once. I needed help with English. I look at her: in my eyes all the longing of the world. I ask what she's interested in. Shaking his head sadly. The mother says that the girl from 5 years old is engaged in dancing.”



“Do you like to dance?” he asked. The teenager shakes his head negatively again. She's 15, and she doesn't want anything, so she can retire. The bond between mother and girl is irretrievably lost, and it is terrifying.”

“It turned out that she liked animals. In our next class, she was messing with my cat. While we were studying, the animal was dozing on the girl’s lap. After a while, she gave up dancing and went to become a veterinarian. I saw her recently. Happy, eyes are burning. Thank you for saving her. Well, at least someone had my lessons, laughs the teacher.



Indeed, all these preparatory courses often only please the mothers themselves. Helping them feel better. Good and Right ParentsThey give the child the best. At the same time, the real desires and needs of the carapuz go to the background.

Although instead of earning money to pay for unnecessary courses and sections, parents could better spend time with their child. We could build the right and trusting relationship. You could play with him and share some of your experiences.

After all, for learning and obtaining the necessary skills for life, the child will have a very long time. Agreed?