Why parents are not allowed to clean the house Bashny.Net

Children grow up. This process is inevitable, but some parents find it difficult to accept. When a child is young, it is as if They don’t want to see adulthood. your son or daughter. Imposing views, values, solving problems for them - all this is fraught with children. Especially those who have grown up. And How to live in a parent’s apartment That's a big question.



A girl-student, working part-time at familiar nannies, shared her story. Olga in the family one-off baby. The parents of average income, the daughter did not miss anything. Now that she is in college, she left behind. Everything seems fine, but the girl does not feel like a mistress. And not only housing, but also their lives.

Since childhood, Ole bought all the best, friends were jealous. And only a classmate Lena once said, "I don't envy you." It is impossible to live with parents like yours! Every step is controlled, everything is decided by yourself, and what to do and how to do.”

And indeed, the girl was not easy. She had no right to choose, not even who she was friends with, but what dress to wear to kindergarten or school. They were forced to eat only healthy food and in the amount that their parents considered necessary.



Olga grew up an obedient and comfortable child. I tried not to upset my mom and dad. She's an excellent student at school.She passed the exams without any problems and entered the institute. As planned, her parents left her apartment and went to live in a country village near the city. Home is there. furnished and prepared.

“You are a student and we are getting old. It's time to live apart. Be the hostess of this apartment, my father, as always, was lame. And my mother, before she left, would chastise everything: "When it happens, call me." For urgent help, contact your neighbor Aunt Zina, I warned her. Don't take anyone into the house.” And, quietly wiping away tears, she calmed herself down: “Over there, adults live separately with their friends.” They get used to it. I wanted to live in my own house, closer to nature.



She couldn’t wait to finally be alone. The first thing I did was put my order in place. I made a small rearrangement in the room, threw out the trash from the nightstands in the kitchen: jars, caps, dishes that have not been used for a long time. Then I grabbed the hallway and the balcony. Half of what was there was transported to the country. “So what is valuable, they took with them,” thought the girl. I decided to get rid of it.

When the mother came a couple of days later, she almost had a heart attack: “How could you?” What do you think? You decided to become a hostess, and you didn't ask me? Maybe I loved those things. I didn't expect that from you!

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Olya used to justify herself to her mother, but then she burst into flames: “So you yourself gave the good.” "Be the hostess," they said. And I don't want to live among rubbish anymore.” Word for word, and we quarreled. The mother left, slamming the door and accusing her daughter of ingratitude. Olya cried with mixed feelings: grievances and guilt.

Dad called later. Until then, the girl had hoped that at least Dad will understand and support. But after the reproaches and on his part, she completely “split up”.



Parents said that since their daughter is so old and independent, let her earning. And draws conclusions. My parents may have rushed to move. They agreed that they will leave everything as it is for a month, and then they will look.

Olga, barely enrolled in the pedagogical, posted an announcement about her services as a nanny. I've always loved children.I decided to work hard. Now it can be recommended by one family to another, and with earnings for the first time there will be no problems.



But what about the parents, continuing to live in their apartment, which seems to be her property? Friends are advised to consult a psychotherapist to get rid of unnecessary guilt and find reconciliation not at the expense of themselves. Neighbor Aunt Zina understands Olya, but so does her parents. She insists that her daughter ask them for forgiveness. They left their homes..

“Hear the advice of the elders, my daughter,” says the good neighbor.



A girl at a crossroads. On the one hand, he understands what he has. privacy and your choices. She loves her parents and is really grateful for everything. It makes him feel guilty.

I share the view that man is vital. make responsible decisions. No matter what the people around you say. Otherwise you can lose yourself. What would you, dear readers, advise Olga in this situation?