Bribery, intimidation and blackmail: Why not get children to eat

In the last piece of the force, eat up, and then not grow? What threatens this approach to power — say in our article.

We all want our child received the best of everything. The question of baby food in this huge list of parental worries and concerns confidently takes the first line. It is necessary that the child ate a lot, often on a schedule and let him know the parents.

But this approach is very often the opposite can hurt kids. And here's why.





Food ceases to be just food

• Blackmail ("don't eat, don't go for a walk!"),
• threats ("don't eat the soup, you'll be in the corner stand!"),
• speculation on the feelings ("why do You not eat porridge? Mom tried to cook porridge, and you don't eat! What, mom not like you?!"),
• bribery ("Eat this carrot salad, it's cartoons!"),
• intimidation ("Who does not eat, he will never grow up! Will remain small!"),

 

it does not work even in the short term — stubborn children still do not eat.

But in the long run and does work against the child. He begins to associate his fears, weaknesses and rejection by loved ones – with food. And here begins the different eating disorders — anorexia and bulimia. After all, food is not just food, through food or through the rejection of her child is already used to establish his relationship with the world. Just as parents through food have established a relationship with him.

No control over hunger
 

Healthy children, in fact, quite strong, which is a plan of survival. And this program will not give to a child who needs to eat, to be hungry.

If the meal is not dictated by hunger, and the will of the parent, the child does not develop the skill to feel your body, to meet their needs when necessary.

Subsequently, this can affect the ability to realize and recognize their needs and desires, which affect not only food, but also health, implementation, relationships, etc.



Scene from the cartoon "spirited away"

 

 

Increases the risk of obesity
 

When we force a child to eat in absence of hunger, we'll throw him the mechanisms of hunger and satiety. This means that in the future, even when it would feel hungry, he may continue to overeat. After all, he was used to eating even when not hungry.

The hatred produced by useful products
 

You are yelling at the child to eat cauliflower? There is a risk that the rest of your life he will hate this product. Because he is connected to him with fear and anxiety. Violence can nurture hatred of all things useful.

This does not mean that parents do not have any way to regulate the child's diet. There are a few things that help to form the right eating habits and to feed the child healthy food:

1. Try to give less sweet.
It knocks the appetite, nourishes for a little while, soon, again causing a severe famine. Besides, it confuses the taste buds and does not feel the sweetness of the vegetables

2. Set clear diet and stick to it even on the road.
3 meals and 2 healthy snack. Do not force the child to eat at this time, but at this time should offer up. Missed lunch? Wait until dinner. Hungry? Can snack on carrots, celery or an Apple.

3. Ensure that the child has not acquired the habit of constantly chewing something not useful, like cookies or candies.

4. Remember, that hungry healthy children eat. Always.published

Author: Frida Moreva

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

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