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If you have a daughter
As a father of four daughters, I only hear the cries of others: "And what will happen when they become teenagers!", "The horror, you're surrounded by women ...", "What do you such grief?" And this nonsense I hear almost every day ... But to be honest, I'm not offended and sincerely sympathize with people who think like that.
Before, I could not even imagine what a blessing - have four daughters! In our house is usually dominated by the warm atmosphere and very often we say to each other: "Today, I love you more than yesterday loved».
I can not say I'm super-father, but it's 15 things about fatherhood that I have opened in the last 11 years, it is important to know all the dads who have daughters:
1. She wants to be loved.
Most of all, what could you buy it or what you could teach her, she needs your love. Nobody in the world can not fulfill the role of the father so brilliantly, as you yourself. Yes, your daughter more than once will disappoint you will make mistakes, maybe even turn away from you, but do not let her even for a second reason to doubt your love. Look into her eyes and tell me how much you love her.
2. You have a direct impact on who she will choose as the future elect.
Scared and think, but do you have a direct impact on her personal life: do you imagine the type of man she is likely to choose in the future as a husband. As a child, my third daughter begged me to marry her, but I explained to her in every way that is already married to her beautiful mother. If you do it right, it will guarantee that your little girl will one day become a good life partner.
3. Listen to what she hears.
When we are together with the girls going to the car, where you can often hear Taylor Swift, One Direction, Ketty Perry ... No, I'm not too keen on this kind of music when I myself, but if I am with them, and that kind of music do they like, it will be like me, and I will truly enjoy it.
4. It keeps track of how you feel about her mom.
If you want to take for yourself some of these tips to note, be sure to pay attention to this point. Remember, the best thing you can do for your daughter - is to love her mother. It is easy to be obsessed with the child, but to build relationships in marriage and to put your relationship with the wife of the head of all of life's priorities - not everyone is subject! Times when I lose a close bond with his wife Brooke strangely coincides with the period when children receive a lot of problems. Love your wife, take the time to take her out on a date, travel together, show the children that it is for you priority. First, you'll show them a good example of strong and warm relationship, and, secondly, they will grow in love and understanding.
5. Do not parted from her when she grows up.
Our eldest is almost 11, we have not yet experienced the terrible teenage years, but I have to be ready. Fathers who have lost their emotional bond with their daughters, and then regret that they were not with them at this very difficult period for girls. I assure you, I will not be imposed on his daughter, but I'll know who it is found, I will even aware of some of her girlish secrets, she just does not want to keep it a secret from me. She did not notice the difference in our relationship at a time when she was 5, and when she knocks 15. My girls grow up, but remain the same for me, dear.
6. taught her to play sports.
In our house, all carefully refer to their own health and well-being. My girls - not weaklings. They know how to properly do push-ups and even seriously involved in sports. They also do not forget to develop themselves intellectually, to be as smart and beautiful as their mom, because femininity is not possible only with the help instill banal dresses for princesses and fairy tales about the prince on a white horse.
7. Keep the memories.
One close friend told me that my main job as a father - to be the guardian of the family memories. This is not a joke, I have it remains only 50-60 years, and it is not too much, so I try the allotted me time to save as many memories associated with my girls. We not only celebrate together great holidays, we also take into account all sorts of stuff from everyday life and try to make each of them a kind of holiday. Movie night into Friday evening, Saturday great breakfast, walk after church - why not? It does not have to be expensive or be elaborate, but it must come from the heart. Give your daughter the idea that she got himself magazine best memories.
8. Show that not everything revolves around it.
There's something incredible when we realize that the world does not revolve around us loved. My wife and I have not told it to my girls, but we have tried to show them that life has meaning and becomes beautiful only on the fact that you are able to give more and to give than to receive; help others, make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
9.Perezhivay events of her life with her.
To provide for the family and children, many of us want to build a successful career, but we sometimes forget for whom we do it. You will not always be able to handle it, but I try to live every event with her daughter, even if it does not lead you into raptures. I hate it when fathers come to the speech of their own daughters and boredom begin to watch football on the phone. I assure you, I do not like football less than these guys, but when my daughter will dance at school, all my attention this evening and I'll give her the loudest applause in the hall of this incredible girl.
10. Being close - not to attend.
Yes, I admit, sometimes I forget about it. The simple fact that you are about it, does not mean that you really are with her. Turn off your phone immediately when he returned home from work. Or in extreme cases leave it in another room. After all, her daughter does not care about your mail or your Twitter, it is important that you spend more time with her and was there at the right time.
11. to help her do her hair and nails.
My wife makes it 99 times a day. But I do not mind girls tails 100th time. Imagine, I can even make up their nails. Sometimes they do not make up your nails off me, especially when I'm sleeping. Show daughter that a man should be a gentleman.
12. Walk with her on a date.
I can not say that I do it regularly, but every few months to reduce my baby out on a date - it's better than nothing. You have to show her an example of how a real man treats a woman. You can call me old-fashioned, but when I went in his youth with the girls on dates, I opened the door for them, paid for them in the cafe, looked them straight in the eyes and make them feel at 100%. No, for that you do not need pockets full of money ... walk in the park, cycling, going to the ice cream shop - all this will only cost you a penny, but will bring great pleasure of your daughter, because the main thing - attention!
13. Her soul must be even more attractive than her looks.
She must have some kind of rod inside, so to speak, an internal support. Show her that to be beautiful - that's not all, you need to work not only on their appearance, but also to enrich their inner world.
14. Do not blinked.
Plays the role of a father with dignity, live it, prices every moment, do not miss this chance of a not so often in life.
15. Will you forgive me?
When my actions match my words and intentions, and I notice that somehow hurt her feelings, I ask for her forgiveness. No, it's not a simple apology, excuse, it is very sincere, conscious and present. You must be able to recognize their mistakes. No doubt she will forgive you and realize that asking forgiveness - not weakness.
Before, I could not even imagine what a blessing - have four daughters! In our house is usually dominated by the warm atmosphere and very often we say to each other: "Today, I love you more than yesterday loved».
I can not say I'm super-father, but it's 15 things about fatherhood that I have opened in the last 11 years, it is important to know all the dads who have daughters:
1. She wants to be loved.
Most of all, what could you buy it or what you could teach her, she needs your love. Nobody in the world can not fulfill the role of the father so brilliantly, as you yourself. Yes, your daughter more than once will disappoint you will make mistakes, maybe even turn away from you, but do not let her even for a second reason to doubt your love. Look into her eyes and tell me how much you love her.
2. You have a direct impact on who she will choose as the future elect.
Scared and think, but do you have a direct impact on her personal life: do you imagine the type of man she is likely to choose in the future as a husband. As a child, my third daughter begged me to marry her, but I explained to her in every way that is already married to her beautiful mother. If you do it right, it will guarantee that your little girl will one day become a good life partner.
3. Listen to what she hears.
When we are together with the girls going to the car, where you can often hear Taylor Swift, One Direction, Ketty Perry ... No, I'm not too keen on this kind of music when I myself, but if I am with them, and that kind of music do they like, it will be like me, and I will truly enjoy it.
4. It keeps track of how you feel about her mom.
If you want to take for yourself some of these tips to note, be sure to pay attention to this point. Remember, the best thing you can do for your daughter - is to love her mother. It is easy to be obsessed with the child, but to build relationships in marriage and to put your relationship with the wife of the head of all of life's priorities - not everyone is subject! Times when I lose a close bond with his wife Brooke strangely coincides with the period when children receive a lot of problems. Love your wife, take the time to take her out on a date, travel together, show the children that it is for you priority. First, you'll show them a good example of strong and warm relationship, and, secondly, they will grow in love and understanding.
5. Do not parted from her when she grows up.
Our eldest is almost 11, we have not yet experienced the terrible teenage years, but I have to be ready. Fathers who have lost their emotional bond with their daughters, and then regret that they were not with them at this very difficult period for girls. I assure you, I will not be imposed on his daughter, but I'll know who it is found, I will even aware of some of her girlish secrets, she just does not want to keep it a secret from me. She did not notice the difference in our relationship at a time when she was 5, and when she knocks 15. My girls grow up, but remain the same for me, dear.
6. taught her to play sports.
In our house, all carefully refer to their own health and well-being. My girls - not weaklings. They know how to properly do push-ups and even seriously involved in sports. They also do not forget to develop themselves intellectually, to be as smart and beautiful as their mom, because femininity is not possible only with the help instill banal dresses for princesses and fairy tales about the prince on a white horse.
7. Keep the memories.
One close friend told me that my main job as a father - to be the guardian of the family memories. This is not a joke, I have it remains only 50-60 years, and it is not too much, so I try the allotted me time to save as many memories associated with my girls. We not only celebrate together great holidays, we also take into account all sorts of stuff from everyday life and try to make each of them a kind of holiday. Movie night into Friday evening, Saturday great breakfast, walk after church - why not? It does not have to be expensive or be elaborate, but it must come from the heart. Give your daughter the idea that she got himself magazine best memories.
8. Show that not everything revolves around it.
There's something incredible when we realize that the world does not revolve around us loved. My wife and I have not told it to my girls, but we have tried to show them that life has meaning and becomes beautiful only on the fact that you are able to give more and to give than to receive; help others, make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
9.Perezhivay events of her life with her.
To provide for the family and children, many of us want to build a successful career, but we sometimes forget for whom we do it. You will not always be able to handle it, but I try to live every event with her daughter, even if it does not lead you into raptures. I hate it when fathers come to the speech of their own daughters and boredom begin to watch football on the phone. I assure you, I do not like football less than these guys, but when my daughter will dance at school, all my attention this evening and I'll give her the loudest applause in the hall of this incredible girl.
10. Being close - not to attend.
Yes, I admit, sometimes I forget about it. The simple fact that you are about it, does not mean that you really are with her. Turn off your phone immediately when he returned home from work. Or in extreme cases leave it in another room. After all, her daughter does not care about your mail or your Twitter, it is important that you spend more time with her and was there at the right time.
11. to help her do her hair and nails.
My wife makes it 99 times a day. But I do not mind girls tails 100th time. Imagine, I can even make up their nails. Sometimes they do not make up your nails off me, especially when I'm sleeping. Show daughter that a man should be a gentleman.
12. Walk with her on a date.
I can not say that I do it regularly, but every few months to reduce my baby out on a date - it's better than nothing. You have to show her an example of how a real man treats a woman. You can call me old-fashioned, but when I went in his youth with the girls on dates, I opened the door for them, paid for them in the cafe, looked them straight in the eyes and make them feel at 100%. No, for that you do not need pockets full of money ... walk in the park, cycling, going to the ice cream shop - all this will only cost you a penny, but will bring great pleasure of your daughter, because the main thing - attention!
13. Her soul must be even more attractive than her looks.
She must have some kind of rod inside, so to speak, an internal support. Show her that to be beautiful - that's not all, you need to work not only on their appearance, but also to enrich their inner world.
14. Do not blinked.
Plays the role of a father with dignity, live it, prices every moment, do not miss this chance of a not so often in life.
15. Will you forgive me?
When my actions match my words and intentions, and I notice that somehow hurt her feelings, I ask for her forgiveness. No, it's not a simple apology, excuse, it is very sincere, conscious and present. You must be able to recognize their mistakes. No doubt she will forgive you and realize that asking forgiveness - not weakness.
