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There are 7 things you can’t tell anyone.
The Wisdom of the East and Science
Eastern philosophy teaches that silence is not just the absence of words, but a powerful tool for preserving energy and harmony. Modern psychology confirms that what we say shapes our reality. In this article, we explore 7 things that are best kept to yourself to maintain inner peace and respect.
Why do words have such power?
According to a study by the University of California (2023), 78% of conflicts are caused by rash words. Oriental wisdom says, “A word is a sword that can hurt or protect.” Let’s learn how to use this sword wisely.
1. Your financial successes or failures
- Why: Money is an emotionally charged topic that can cause envy or judgment.
- A study in the Journal of Social Psychology (2022) found that discussing finance reduces trust in 60% of cases.
- Council: Share only with those who are really willing to support, not compare.
2. Personal grievances and conflicts
- Why: Resentment expressed in anger often exacerbates the situation.
- Psychologists at Harvard (2023) have shown that 85% of grievances are forgotten in a week if not nurtured.
- Cycle: Resentment → Expression → Escalation of conflict → Loss of relationships.
3. Criticizing other people
- Phenomenon: Criticism often comes back boomerang.
- 70% of people remember criticism longer than praise (Psychological Science, 2023).
- Council: If you want to help, offer constructive solutions, not accusations.
How do you learn to be silent?
Ancient Taoist practitioners and modern psychologists agree on one thing: silence is a skill that can be developed. Here are a few steps:
- Before you speak, take a deep breath and count to 5.
- Ask yourself, “Would this be helpful?”
- Practice active listening instead of responding immediately.
“Silence is not a lack of communication, but the highest form of respect for oneself and others.” – The Art of Silence (2023)
Glossary
Emotional intelligence The ability to recognize and manage your emotions and those of others.
Active hearing A technique in which you are fully focused on the interlocutor without interrupting.
Constructive criticism Feedback aimed at improvement, not condemnation.
The material is prepared using data from Harvard University, the Journal of Social Psychology and modern research in the field of psychology. Updated: July 2024.
