What are men after the 50th anniversary and why some in old age become grumpy grandfathers Bashny.Net

They say that the first 30 years of childhood, men are the most difficult. It's a joke, of course. But in every joke there is a grain of truth: the formation of a male personality takes a little longer than a female one. If women by the age of 25 already know what they want, and for the most part are serious in relationships, this figure is slightly higher in men. We can say that at the age of 40, an exemplary representative of the strong half of humanity is in the prime of life. What does a fifty-year-old man look like?



I want to share my personal observations and comments of my favorite psychologists on this subject. I warn you in advance that I do not want to offend anyone! Lately, however, I've been seeing more and more, not aging noble lions, but grumpy young grandfathers. By the way, these grandfathers are sometimes 30 years old, but this is already a difficult case. Let me tell you how to distinguish one from the other.

Let's start with the pleasant - with lions. These are men who have completely passed the cycle of becoming a person, found themselves and realized their potential. But these are just words, and in fact they are distinguished by the following details.

A real lion ages beautifully. It's like aged strong alcohol - it doesn't take much to lose your head from it. First of all, attention falls on good health and physical fitness.

A healthy body at 50 is no longer genes or luck, as it happens in youth, but a firm choice and hard work on yourself. The absence of a beer tummy is an additional plus, which, by the way, speaks not only of good discipline, but also of a high level of testosterone. This affects male attractiveness, ambition and activity in general.



The second, and much more important, factor is restraint. A well-mannered man of 50 years will not raise his voice and will not take part in dubious disputes. He appreciates not only his time, but also the time of others.

The lion is a true gentleman. And this quality, by the way, many men acquire only in the later years. Because it’s not easy to figure out what a woman wants, it takes time. Alexander Shakhov, a family psychologist, says that every self-respecting man should learn to understand women and be able to take responsibility. This specialist often emphasizes that a real male lion is distinguished by the need to take care of someone, not just himself.

Leo was often married, sometimes even more than once. That, by the way, says nothing bad about him. The same psychologist jokingly claims that for the time being, all men are so-called womanizers. Until they get the experience and mature to start their own family. Loyalty for an adult man is the result of correctly set priorities, an indicator of maturity.



Unsplash is to be feared just the same singles, who throughout their lives have not been able to build any serious relationships. My mother used to say that if a man didn’t get married before he was 35, God wouldn’t marry him.

The lion does not drink, does not bully and, most importantly, does not complain about life. This is what sets him apart from the typical young man.

This can happen to anyone: the crisis of middle age, loneliness, poor upbringing. But not everyone turns into old grandparents. You look like this, and you almost don't see wrinkles, and the number in the passport isn't the biggest. Take a closer look, Grandpa.



Unsplash Grandfather constantly complains about everything. First of all, health, politics, wife and work. Grunting does not paint any person, and a mature man instantly turns into an old climber. It’s not that it’s not worth complaining to a man. The point is the unwillingness to change anything: go to the doctor, play sports, change jobs, build relationships with loved ones.

You can see that after 40 years, many people choose the path of degradation. Not just men, women, no one is perfect. To understand that life is going downhill is very simple: nothing changes in it for decades, joy and enthusiasm flow from a person. Eyes go out - write is gone.

In men, such degradation is often accompanied by an addiction to alcohol. This is a powerful catalyst that exposes all the darkest sides of the personality. There is even a scientific explanation for this. Alcohol over time depletes the gray lining of the brain, which is responsible for self-control. Such a person no longer controls himself, becomes rude, cruel and selfish. In addition, drunkenness provokes the appearance of depression, a faithful companion of alcoholics.



A brazen man of fifty years You definitely met such 50-year-old grandfathers in transport. They climb to the checkout without queue, look at you with hostility on the street. In their cologne, a note of overcooking is clearly heard, they do not need anything to shove a lady with an elbow in the chest. God forbid you step on his last clean shoes! In response, a three-story mat will immediately fall.

And that's fine. That's when Grandpa starts flirting, there's no joke. Obscenity, open sexism, violation of personal boundaries are all part of the tactics of the grandfather. In his 50 years, he never learned to communicate with women and made a decision for himself that, since it did not work then, now there is no point in trying.

Of course, grandparents can be sorry. They often have a full set: from a difficult childhood to arthritis. He's a security guard at a mall now, but as a kid, he dreamed of being an astronaut! Now he has a beer tummy and a bald head, but 20 years ago, when his metabolism was better, he was considered the first handsome.



But there is another interesting subspecies, which is easy to confuse with the king of animals. I call him a false lion. Unfortunately, many ladies fell victim to his eloquence, not fully realizing that before them the most ordinary grandfather.

What distinguishes a false lion from its aging counterparts is its sharp mind. It is no secret that high intelligence is not a guarantee of good manners or nobility. The false lion is cunning and circumspect: he knows that no one likes grumpy elders, and therefore for the time being keeps his mouth shut. He makes nice jokes, compliments, but the only thing he really cares about is his ego. This is a real narcissist in front of you.



In his youth, there are no girls in such a break, but after 40 the popularity fades. Women also grow wise over the years and no longer allow themselves to be dusted in the eyes. Alexander Fimko, a psychologist and therapist, warns: beware of old narcissists, they will help only long-term therapy. However, only at their own will.

The false lion is wrong. He doesn't keep his word, sharp on his tongue. He could put his hand on a lady. He is stingy like a poor old man, and not noble at all. Behind the spray of intelligence and polished shoes hides the same dissatisfied with life, the old man who has one joy in life - he himself.



And even if his courtship may seem like a display of high feelings, it's nothing more than a deceptive maneuver. It is quite difficult to determine such an instance, but what he will not tolerate is ridicule at himself. Even a good joke deeply hurts such a man, the charms are dispelled, and he turns into a grandfather already familiar to us. It can insult in response, and be offended, and silently leave, and accuse of stupidity.

A real lion can laugh at himself, especially in respect of age. His confidence is unshakable, and a woman’s laughter does not hurt him in any way, but only makes him laugh.

Which men in their 50s do you meet most often: lions or old men?