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Harms that wise parents do not forbid children
Many adult problems are rooted in childhood. Some parents were too tough, somewhere they set stupid rules for the child, somewhere they too protected him from dangers. Everything needs balance and education too. Therefore, even some childishness Parents should not stop, but encourage.
And today's edition. "Site" It will tell you why loving moms and dads just have to allow some harmful things to their kids. This will allow you to find the middle ground to give the child enough freedom, but it is reasonable to limit what will not benefit him.
So what whims of a child should not be forbidden, so as not to remain in his memory a dictator? After all, everyone wants to be for his child not just a mentor, but a friend about whom he will always remember warmly.
Do not accustom the child to think that the elders are always right. Let him have critical thinking and understand for himself what is good and what is bad, what is permissible and what is unacceptable. Let the child know how to defend his point of view and build personal boundaries. The wisdom and wisdom of a person does not always depend on the number of years he lived. Choosing clothes
Going shopping with a child is a pleasure. And it's not just about the prices of clothes, it's about what things your kid likes. However, experts advise parents not to impose their views. Let the child choose exactly the thing that he likes. After all, in this way the child creates his own style, learns to express his individuality. Besides, he'll definitely wear it.
Attitudes to age
Modern children grow up quickly. Perhaps they have no choice, because they are constantly told: “When you grow up” or “You are not a child anymore.” But everyone grows up at their own pace. You can’t become an adult just because you’re asked to. A child may pretend to be an adult, but that doesn’t make him or her ready for adult problems. Don't rush him. Video games
For the mental development of a child, video games are more useful than watching cartoons. At the same time, you need to understand that today there are educational video games that in a game form can give more than boring textbooks. And the skills acquired with such fun, will help the child to better navigate the technological future, which will certainly be more perfect than now.
Perhaps any adult can mentally go back to his childhood and remember. banThe ones that surrounded him. Mom and dad, grandparents readily voiced their requirements and wishes. However, they were rarely explained.
"Because I said so," the child invariably hears from a close adult. But will such a questionable explanation help the child understand anything?
And today's edition. "Site" It will tell you why loving moms and dads just have to allow some harmful things to their kids. This will allow you to find the middle ground to give the child enough freedom, but it is reasonable to limit what will not benefit him.
So what whims of a child should not be forbidden, so as not to remain in his memory a dictator? After all, everyone wants to be for his child not just a mentor, but a friend about whom he will always remember warmly.
- Eating harmful foods
Children adore not only sweets, but all these incomprehensible chips and snacks, after which you have to wash your hands with soap, so as not to soil everything around. And by banning such food, parents only make it even more desirable. Everything forbidden is twice as sweet. So it's even better if mom and dad buy the same chips themselves. The child will understand that at home he can eat not only what his mother cooks, but also what he wants. They will not eat chocolates or chips from their parents. Why, when you can do it openly?
- Spending
This is a pocket money that the child must learn to manage. And if you give money, then the child becomes their full owner and has the right to spend at their discretion. Especially if it is money that the child earned for good grades in school or homework. Even if the child spends money on nonsense, he will regret it later. And that's good. Only in this way will he learn to control his desires and expenses. This is the only way he can plan his budget. - carelessness
The activity and curiosity of the child, with whom he learns the world, makes him instantly forget that he is wearing new pants or jacket. He does not care at this moment, in a sweater with a tag of which brand he is now lying on the grass. Don't rush to scold the child. It is better to decide together what clothes in his wardrobe will be walking, and which need careful handling.
- Carefree.
Today’s children are under more pressure than previous generations. Learning is becoming more intense and complex, hobbies require more and more effort, and social networks distract and make you be no worse than everyone else. To save the child from constant anxiety and depression, you should allow him to be at least a little carefree. It's okay if he sleeps longer or stays idle all day.
Do not accustom the child to think that the elders are always right. Let him have critical thinking and understand for himself what is good and what is bad, what is permissible and what is unacceptable. Let the child know how to defend his point of view and build personal boundaries. The wisdom and wisdom of a person does not always depend on the number of years he lived. Choosing clothes
Going shopping with a child is a pleasure. And it's not just about the prices of clothes, it's about what things your kid likes. However, experts advise parents not to impose their views. Let the child choose exactly the thing that he likes. After all, in this way the child creates his own style, learns to express his individuality. Besides, he'll definitely wear it.
Attitudes to age
Modern children grow up quickly. Perhaps they have no choice, because they are constantly told: “When you grow up” or “You are not a child anymore.” But everyone grows up at their own pace. You can’t become an adult just because you’re asked to. A child may pretend to be an adult, but that doesn’t make him or her ready for adult problems. Don't rush him. Video games
For the mental development of a child, video games are more useful than watching cartoons. At the same time, you need to understand that today there are educational video games that in a game form can give more than boring textbooks. And the skills acquired with such fun, will help the child to better navigate the technological future, which will certainly be more perfect than now.
Perhaps any adult can mentally go back to his childhood and remember. banThe ones that surrounded him. Mom and dad, grandparents readily voiced their requirements and wishes. However, they were rarely explained.
"Because I said so," the child invariably hears from a close adult. But will such a questionable explanation help the child understand anything?
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