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Theory Neufeld never talked about how much need to breast-feed, how to sleep with children, as they need to wear.

Theory Neufeld never talked about how long the mother needs to spend with a child. And, of course, have no mention of the fact that mother and child should be inseparable around the clock.

Theory Neufeld never talked about how to become a good mother, a good enough mother to be bad. And what do you need to be a good mother or good enough.



Theory Neufeld never blame us for our mistakes.

Theory Neufeld never taught, "a child To do something, you need to..."

Theory Neufeld never taught "To the child. not doing something you need.."

Theory Neufeld never said that children need to blow in the ass.

Theory Neufeld never said that children need to let.

Theory Neufeld never said that kids need to command, suppress and conquer.

Thorium Neufeld never said that you need to be with children on equal terms.

Theory Neufeld never said that we need to suppress feelings and emotions. Your or child.

Theory Neufeld never said that attachment is the ultimate goal of the relationship between mother and child.

Theory Neufeld never talked about what you need to do just so and not otherwise.

Theory Neufeld never said that we need to do everything perfectly according to the theory Neufeld.

Theory Neufeld never said that if you do everything exactly according to the theory Neufeld, it just happens.

What is she then?

In my opinion — about the soft heart of the labyrinth, growing up, about how to understand the other. About intuition to go this route. Not about perfectionism, but just that is not perfect and never will be.

That our way of parenting is a labyrinth. The path to it is unknown. And we're in it to the touch. Boom, into the wall of his forehead. Hurt. To make this "painful" experience, not beat his head there for the hundredth time, to continue to see child in need, have a soft heart. And then the failures and errors on the parent path will lead to the accumulation of experience. This is the way of growing up. Way for children and adults.

There are no right or wrong in this maze. There is an adult who leads a child. And he knows your child better than others. Definitely!
And then no injury is not terrible, because they simply do not. There is a way, there are errors, there is a soft heart that errors to make the experience, not the scourge of self-loathing.

It's hard, bad, vulnerable – make the decision itself then deal with the consequences, to draw conclusions (sometimes sad) and find the strength to go again. To go their way. But this is growing up we are as adults. published

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