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Mama - is not the best friend, mother - is mum
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In some families, between mother and children lined up a very strong friendship. Mom becomes the best friend, and then the children formed a high level of confidence. < Every decision of the child should always be approved by the parents, or -. disappointed This is an ominous sign of overprotection of the child's personality, and it generates an increasing relationship between parents and children
<. br> When the child is no clear authority, he begins to feel his vulnerability. And then it can be difficult, because not easy to make their own decisions and take responsibility. But it is necessary.
Keep the distance in a relationship with a child does not mean that you can not be close to each other. < It is one thing - to be friends, and quite another - to be a mom and child Of course, a good mother always wants only the best for their children.. Nevertheless, this does not give you the right to interfere in their lives under the pretext that you are also good friends.
< It is important to understand the roots of this phenomenon. It is possible, in some moments you are too honest with your child and your relationship are similar to the relationship of two equal friends? Then you do not have enough authority: The child listens to, but still makes its own way. In this case, may very emotional conflicts regarding independence that sometimes develop into depression: she begins to fear that children may repeat its mistakes. And such moments can not be ignored.
< How to improve the relationship?
The children understand that they are not obliged to submit to your friends. < This is why the mother is so important to be loving, but at the same time be able to show their hardness In addition, children do not need to be aware of my mother too personal problems.: It will only lead to unreasonable fears, excitement and experiences on about the relationship of parents.
Remarkably, when the relationship is clean and transparent. It is important to build them together, rather than impose a specific style of communication. Otherwise, it creates a permanent state of anxiety and mistrust, which results in emotional exhaustion. But all this can be avoided.
On the other hand, if there are any problems in the family or in life, we should not be silent about this: it is not necessary to force relatives to worry. Try to share your concerns in an atmosphere of sincerity and respect. Then the relationship will be healthy and free.
< Your child (especially if it is a minor) must understand that the important decisions in his life would take my mother. Just imagine how much could be anger, if such decisions would be taken ... just a friend. Mother allowed much more than friends.
Misunderstandings between mother and child can be fixed. The main thing is to choose the right time. In spite of the great love and trust that there is among you, do not forget to use common sense in order to settle the controversy or trouble.
It is important that the child has learned to solve their problems and sought independence. Mom will always be there to support and advise how it can do it alone. And the child should also be understood that some aspects of your life is very personal and can not be discussed. After all, everyone has their own story and their own way.
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