How to understand yourself and your true desires, if you are used to trying for others

How to understand yourself and your true desires
Even if you are used to living for others, you can still return to the true path and find yourself.

You're used to being comfortable with others. Parents expected obedience from you, friends - support, colleagues - willingness to help.
And you coped, put other people's desires above your own, forgetting about the main person in your life - about yourself.
But somewhere deep inside there was always a quiet question: "What do I want?" This article will help you find the answer and regain the right to be yourself.



Why do we lose touch with ourselves?
Living for others seems right. We are taught from childhood that being a good person means being useful and comfortable.
However, paying attention to the needs of others, we gradually forget about our own desires. This leads to disappointment, fatigue.
It feels like life is passing by.

When we live solely for others, our personality becomes a reflection of their expectations. This process can happen so quietly.
One day we wake up feeling empty, not knowing who we are or what we really want.


Steps on your way.
To find your true desires, it’s important to take a step back, pause, and ask yourself some tough questions.
Here is a plan to help you get back to yourself:

1. Admit the problem.
The first step is to realize that you too often act for others and forget about yourself. It's not a matter of self-criticism.
It's an opportunity to start making a difference. Recognize that you are worthy of attention to your desires.


2. Separate your desires from others
Often our goals are not our true aspirations, but the result of environmental pressures. Ask yourself a question.
“What would I want if no one expected anything from me?” Imagine what your life would look like.
If only you lived for yourself.


3. Learn to say no.
This is the most difficult but necessary skill. Giving up on others’ expectations is the first step to creating space for your desires.
Start small: learn to say no gently but firmly where your interests are hurt.


4. Remember what brought joy.
Think back to the past. What inspired you when you were a child? What activities did you like when no one forced you to commit?
Our true desires are often hidden in our childhood dreams.


5. Start with small steps.
You don't have to change your whole life. Start with something you enjoy right now: a cup of coffee alone.
Walking in the park, reading your favorite book. These little moments will help you hear your inner voice again.


6. Keep a journal.
Write down your thoughts, feelings and desires. This will help you better understand yourself and understand what really inspires you.
Write honestly, without thinking about how it looks from the outside.


Acceptance of Self: The Path to True Freedom
Understanding yourself and your true desires is not only about personal comfort, but also about freedom. When you live for others,
It depends on their approval and expectations. Having realized your goals and started to go to them, you gain independence and inner strength.

It's not an easy path, but it's worth the effort. True joy and harmony come only when you live in harmony with yourself.
Allow yourself to be the hero of your life.


Conclusion
Even if your whole life you are used to pleasing others, you can still return to yourself. Start with small steps: Be aware of the problem.
Give yourself the right to dream and create space for your desires. After all, your journey is your story and it deserves to be unique.