I took my old mother and asked her to give me her pension, a scandal broke out.

Taking an elderly parent is a big step. He is an adult with his own habits and attitudes. It is often difficult to get along and find a common language. This is what happened to the heroine of our history. She wanted to take care of her old mother, but everything turned into misunderstanding and hysteria.



Editorial "Site" She shares this painfully familiar story with you.

My mother lived alone in the village for a long time. Dad died a long time ago, and she never wanted to connect her life with anyone else. It was pretty well managed by itself. When we got better financially, we found a woman for her to help her with the housework. For a few years everything was fine. But recently my mother began to fail health. She fainted in the middle of the street. It's good to have help.

Then I decided I should take her to us. Here you can call a doctor and put it in the hospital. My mother was happy with that decision. In one day I packed my bags and was ready to go. I guess I was afraid we'd change our minds.



To be honest, I wasn’t in a hurry to make that decision. I loved my quiet life and peace of mind at home. Mom's a tough person. I knew it would be hard to live in the same house. Especially since she lived on her own for over 10 years. She has her own habits, her own views on life. And the husband was not eager. However, the circumstances were such that I could not otherwise. And my husband supported me.



When we brought my mother to the city, we had to dress her again and put her on shoes. She came in some rags. Although I'm sure she had normal clothes. I immediately took care of her health, took her to the doctors. She spent a week in the hospital, she was put on IVs. Her health improved, but she had to buy a lot of medicine.

It wasn't expensive for me then. But now things have gotten worse. I have been out of work for several months because of the war, only recently went to the office. The husband was reduced salary because he switched to home mode of work. He will probably get that salary soon. It became difficult to support the whole family and pay the loan.



So I decided to ask my mom to give me her pension. At least some of it. After all, all this time I did not take a penny from her, everything was at our expense. But now it's become very difficult. I was sure she would understand me. But that wasn't it. She made such a scandal. She said, “Do you want to take the last one away from me?” ?



I don't know what we took from her. For almost a year she lived on our full support, no one took a penny from her. She refused to sell her house, it was empty in the village. So what did I take from her? She told me bluntly: “I will not give you the money, I will save it just in case.” That's why I raised you so I wouldn't worry about anything in my old age.

I can't understand her. I only care about the well-being of our family. I want us to go through tough times. I don't understand why she took it that way. Maybe I'm wrong about something? Shouldn't you have asked her for money?



The editorial opinion is a very ambiguous situation. We fully understand a woman who takes care of her family. She made a difficult decision taking care of her old mother. And she's been doing it all along without any selfish purpose. Too bad her mom took it for granted. I think she could have invested a little in the family budget. There's nothing wrong with that. It is better that this money will be useful than just lying waiting for a rainy day. What do you think of that?