Let's start with sensations. You drive a car? Or at least a Bicycle?
Well. Now imagine yourself, with your driving experience, driving a hundred-ton dump truck. Here you are driving on a narrow road. One side — wall. Other break. The road is winding and narrow — one wrong move and into the abyss. You have, in this case, no special preparation. The wheel does not feel. Management did not really know. And how to lead this institution in the next second is not at all clear.
Catch this image. Immerse yourself in it, feel and see — what sensations you encounter in the body. What you will feel in the hands, feet, head, neck, chest, shoulders, back, stomach, pelvis...
Caught? The difference with the usual car / bike feel?
Well.
Now imagine a teenager who is 2-3 months grew inches.
His whole nervous system is designed to increase, for example, 140 centimeters. All reflexes, movement sensors — designed that it is 140 centimeters.
And he had grown to 150.
In the end,
the teenager just doesn't know how with your body to cope. Don't know how it will behave, what and when will do. He does not feel, sense of balance, supports the body. Nervous system somehow manages, but any movement requires constant overload. And the constant feeling of loss of control. And it was anxiety and the lack of understanding of what will happen next.
He just went to the "legkovuhu" and "truck". And the human body is much more complicated truck.
The greater the leap in growth, more difficult. And a person needs time to your body to get used to. Get yourself to learn how to use it all.
Hence — a sharp change of behavior. Hence the breakdowns and conflicts. Like, all the time was smooth, and then starts to produce unexpected "tricks".
In General,
the man just has the right to anxiety and misunderstanding what was happening to him.
Caveat: If the parents, while in a state of overload — it starts a chain reaction — pumped each other. So, to start, as always, with ourselves.published
Based on one of the talk with B. A. Arkhipov
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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