Svetlana Royce: “If a child becomes our only resource, he very quickly begins to get sick.”

Emotional burnout. All parents of children under the age of 7 are affected. If you’ve ever said, “I want to go to a desert island for 15 minutes,” you’re one of them. It is impossible to avoid this, because sooner or later we all get tired both physically and mentally.





Svetlana Royce, a child and family psychologist, author of the books “The Magic Wand for Parents”, “Where the Angel Lives”, “Practical Child Studies”, told how to detect signs of emotional burnout, where to take strength and inspiration for young parents.





Emotional burnout syndrome Burnout phase

1. Irritability
   At this stage, you feel that you are already squeezed, but with the last strength you try to keep yourself in control. You are constantly haunted by thoughts such as “I am a bad mother”, “I am not doing anything”, “I am not coping with raising a child”. There may be outbursts of aggression and irritability towards yourself, a child, loved ones.
   
   
   
   
2. Chronic fatigue, apathy
   The parent is finally exhausted, he wants to escape somewhere, he can not be alone with the child for a long time. The feeling of depression, depression, tearfulness overcome the young mother.
   
   
   
   
3. Personality deformity
   On the 3rd burnout Parents need professional help. At this stage, personal changes of a mental nature occur. Therefore, you need to take action as soon as you find that you have reached the boiling point.
   
   
   
   

4 Steps to Harmony

1. Self-fulfillment
   Don’t shift responsibility for your fortune to someone else. Start acting on your own. That's the whole point of self-fulfillment. Remember that you are the best parent for your child and that you gave him life.
2. Resource search
   To find a resource, you need to understand which channels of perception you are not involved. Body channel
   Active lifestyle, dancing, sports, running, swimming, walking. And this is a relaxing bath, massage, pleasant procedures.
   
   
   
   
   
   Relationship channel
   Daily communication with family, friends, colleagues.
   
   The smell channel
   Flavored tea, smell of rain, favorite perfume.
   
   
   
   
   
   Audit channel
   It's about music, favorite songs, playing instruments. But if the mother is constantly surrounded by noise, then she does not use this channel as a resource. Its function is silence.
   
   Visual channel
   Enjoy the contemplation of art objects, observing nature, watching movies.
   
   
   
   
   
   Intelligence channel
   Cognitive activity, the flow of thoughts and information. This channel is often overloaded.
   
   Intuition channel
   It's about meditation and prayer.
   
   
   
   
   
   Channel.
   “Accidents are not accidental” is about this channel. For example, you met someone on the street you were thinking about recently.
   
   If parents use only one channel, it can cause burnout. To avoid this, replenish resources from unused channels. For example, if you have an active intellectual and communicative activity, then you should draw strength and inspiration from silence.
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. Useful.
   Determine what devastates you and what fills you. It can be an environment, a flow of information, an unloved job.
4. Gratitude.
   It is important to be grateful for what you have. Thank the people who help you and make you happier.

Live in harmony with yourself, stay calm and never hesitate to ask for help from your loved ones. Surely you have wise advice for young parents. Tell us about your methods of combating fatigue and share this information on social networks.