Stop telling young couples that they need to have children Bashny.Net

The decision "to have or not to have children" is one of the most important in life. Some women, and men too, dream to become parents and have children as soon as possible.

But there is another category of people who need to weigh all "for" and "against", so as not to regret your decision to have a child. And not always "for" outweighs: some have increasingly taken a conscious decision not to have children. And faced with bewilderment and condemnation of others who are trying to convince to become parents — really just.

We at the Website decided to look at these beliefs realistic.







The cost of things needed for daily care, comes at a tidy sum: strollers, toys, children's clothing, which the child quickly grows. And this is only the beginning, because the next will be school clubs and UNIVERSITY. And very rarely spending on child terminated with the onset of his adulthood.

Many young families postponed the birth of the baby because of the doubt whether they will be able to provide the child with a normal life.







Pregnancy, of course, awesome, a lot of women with the spiritualization perceive these changes. But some are physically difficult to carry a child for them, pregnancy is exhausting because of the continuous sickness and the threat of miscarriage. And what are childbirth and complications?

Some women would not mind to have children, but they just don't want to be pregnant. This does not mean that they are "unable to prioritize", they are only exercising their right (which is not at all contemporary women, by the way) to dispose of his own body the way you want.

Remember: if you have made a definite choice about your body — it does not mean that You can shame anyone who chose something else.







Just the same, life will change dramatically. The first few years it will be possible to forget about your personal time. Parents will have additional concerns, almost all the time will be spent on the child and much less on their Hobbies. There will be more cleaning, more sleep and less personal space.

After the birth of a child in many couples there is a crisis. Not everyone is able to get out of it, saving a family. With the baby enjoy the closeness and just to give attention to each other — is problematic. Not all couples feel ready for it.







Must be psychologically Mature, to consciously want to be parents — it's true that we must recognize. Yes, people gave birth in war and in the years of severe crisis, and when all was ready, and they somehow coped. But how happy were the lives of these families, these children? Very often they were full of drama.







The kids are great, the birth of a child — the happiness that many consider to be incomparable in importance. But it is necessary to be sensitive to those who do not fully share that view. Someone just doesn't want children because he does not see himself in the role of parent. Raising a child is the same work as any other, it is possible to be successful or not.

Believe me, not all people procreate is the meaning of life. Someone sees it as art, someone who lives for the sake of travel — and that's fine.

How wonderful to live in a world where each of us can make a decision about your life, instead of peer pressure to give ideas about what it should look like.

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