HOW TO WITHDRAW FROM A SCRIPT "catch-flight"? Bashny.Net

SCRIPT: "catch-runaway».
For the scenario need at least two members.
Characteristics of "catch-up»:

- "Emotional catching up": requests to the constant attention, can provoke a quarrel, a showdown (as a "provocateur") (as the search of the same attention to myself) looking for pity, empathy towards themselves (role of "weak", " dying "), when parting constantly ringing, writes, seeking meetings, intrusive, touchy, morbidly dependent on the presence of the right person next to (the role of" Velcro "), presses on guilt, etc., are not self-realization, is not aware that other a person needs a private space. It has its own philosophy of love, his consumer attitude to life, to the people, things, etc. if something gives, immediately seeking return, praise, approval, often inclined to praise himself in front of others, to listen to the praise of their lips, etc .;


- "Mental catching up": it can be a fanatic who forcibly tries to pass on his knowledge, he admires; it can be a person who is in the permanent insight in awe of their own knowledge, insights, reflections, and so when he is not asking permission, immediately divided over the stream of his consciousness, etc., intrusive, dependent on praise is constantly looking for students, fans, touchy, prone to blaming others, tend to be willing to change, to change others, to impose its own rules, principles, laws, values ​​of life, etc.

Characteristics of "runaway": inclined to keep emotions in themselves, trying to avoid open conflict, does not want to offend the "catch-up", but at the same time wishing to get their emotional and mental freedom. This contradiction deprives energy. The result: an escape from solving this seemingly intractable problem. No courage, honesty. I want to stay good, without solving anything. But this escape - has ground to start the script.

Stages of script:

- Emotional or mental effects of "catch-up»;

- Escape "runaway»;

- Misunderstanding of "catching up", increasing violence, obsessive desire to get together, etc .;

- Runaway withdraws into himself, hiding, is not a dialogue.

Output from the script of "catching up»:

- For emotional: it is important to learn the emotional independence. Try to give when it is necessary to take another and, when the other it offers. Learn to respect the freedom of another person;

- For the mental: to try to learn how to acquire knowledge, to fix them, analyze, draw conclusions, to put into reality without spraying yourself in mental manipulation. Try to ask permission from the person on the other, to share their knowledge. Learning to be interesting to know when to end the conversation. Learn to respect the freedom of another person.

Output from the script "runaway": learn to be a dialogue. Learn how to be honest and direct with people. Learn to express your feelings and thoughts, thanks to the "I-messages" (when there is a story about himself and not blaming others). Learn to look for a way to dialogue, compromise, make mutual conclusions for the future, gaining experience.
Wish you happiness!