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Children need boundaries

Children need boundaries, because they are very important to understand where it ends and begins not to, and they will always to test them, always. They will always be to check them out to know how can I trust you if you can make them, good and horrible, vile and affectionate.





Photo Monika Koclajda

 

Because if you soak them, then there is hope that they're going to be able to sustain themselves. And it will be clear that when the already intolerably bad, there is an adult to help you who does not "die" from experience.

Once Winnicott introduced the concept of – enough devoted mother (good enough mother) about which often today, in the pursuit of perfection and all good intentions, parents often forget.

So, enough devoted mother is not perfect, not the one that always, always there, not the one that runs on the first call, not the one that sacrifices himself, and one that moderately good for the baby.

Enough devoted mother will be able to take care of the baby, and about myself, because if she does not care and not think about yourself, then when she is exhausted, who will take care of the baby? Great slogan for every parent, written in airplanes, above the chair – in the event of cabin depressurization, place the oxygen on yourself first then the child. This does not mean that we are selfish, it means we can teach children good is to experience frustration, cares about others and themselves, to be customized yourself, now, to understand the border itself.

And Yes, kids will always resist and try to climb to the head, but it's very important to know at this point that you, their closest, already a Grown man, deal with it.

When you become a support for them, even when unbearably painful, it gives them strength. You give them support, you give them yourself. And if the child climbed the same on the head, then Yes, it is for him to win and cheers and laughter, but the laughter through the tears, because — "where next?" the above if you have for no one.You're his most valuable, most strong, strong, dear and dear creature, you are his stone wall, the tallest height.

 



 

And when a stone wall collapses when the seat goes from under the feet begins to quake, it is scary and creepy, right?

And then we trample a path to the fridge, because the fridge is stable, and then you can hang the tablet because the tablet more stable, then you can destroy yourself. And it's painful and at times unbearable for all.

In our society it is considered, unfortunately, that children are "people" somewhere closer to adulthood, and they should be formed, to grow, to learn, but often do not feel their opinions.

We forget that since birth people come to us, that within itself is something, too, know, feel, understand differently, want differently.

Yes, we pay for them, dress along with feed, but they live, you know, so each person who expects from us the strength and warmth, words and hugs, boundaries, and security experience and the ability to get your experience.

 

Author: Tamara Prydatko

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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