The planned pregnancy proceeded calmly and joyfully, but already 6 months after the birth, the pink-cheeked butus began to irritate me. Bashny.Net

The first pregnancy is often accompanied by fear of future parents. Uncertainty about the future, experiences, lack of necessary knowledge. There is nothing surprising in such stress, this happens regardless of age. It's bad when someone's already born. loveless. This is when the real problems begin.



Many families break up for this reason. It is difficult to build a relationship with a person who treats his own child badly. How could he love you in that case? And now we don't mean a tyrant dad, but a confused mom. Why is this happening? Doctors are still struggling to answer. But statistics are stubborn. Unfortunately, the cases are far from single.

My husband and I met quite late. At 26. And the wedding took place only after 2 years. Some may not agree, but most of my friends have formed couples much earlier and are still rejoicing. That's my environment. A little about herself: the daughter of wealthy parents, with higher education and a good position.



My husband is not a poor man, without bad habits. His hobby comes first, and we travel a lot. I know it sounds like a fairy tale, but it is. Probably lucky. Well, we love each other, so it's no surprise that the news of my pregnancy was a joy for both of us. We talked about the baby a long time ago.

The pregnancy was relatively calm. There were some inconveniences, but nothing out of the ordinary. I love going to the gym, so a heavy belly didn't bother my back so much. In addition, I was prescribed a high-quality complex of vitamins and beneficial microelements. I suggest it's important. Pregnancy should take place without stress and health problems.



And here's the happy day. My husband was happy. Our parents, too. Friends and even obstetricians smiled. I’ve read about how hard these people can be. The only person who felt nothing was the mother of the child. I mean, me. “The desired lump of happiness” did not cause any emotions. They didn’t show up after we were taken home.

It was harder at home. My husband ran around us like he was. He brought everything at my first request, cried at the sight of the child. Men's tears of happiness. I pretended to care about it somehow. The baby and what. For the first six months, I was depressed. I tried not to show this irritation, but it was difficult.



But then what happened was that my daughter got sick. Cough, snot, fever. The situation in the world is what you know. I saw the baby on the other side. Fragile, tender. So defenseless. And some mechanism inside of me worked. All female hormones were activated at once. In an instant, I became a real mama hen.

I didn’t close my eyes until the baby fell asleep. I was constantly checking his temperature. The milk was only heated to certain degrees, as the books say. I steamed clothes. But, thank God, it worked out. Young children can get sick quickly and recover quickly. Immunity is formed, the body is strengthened.



But these events made a huge impression on me. I finally felt like a mother. She loved her own child and realized a part of herself and her husband. And now I want to give him all my love and care. That's how it happens. As they say, there would be no happiness, but misfortune helped.

What experts say Postpartum depression It happens in 10-20% of women. Moreover, there have been cases of this disease in men. In fact, scientists are still struggling with the causes of its occurrence. We only know that it can happen to anyone and no one is safe from it. You don't blame yourself, you blame nature.



Of course, such depression affects the whole family and loved ones. She has very similar symptoms to normal depression, but given the physical and mental weakness of the woman in labor, the situation becomes even more serious. At this point, a woman needs the maximum help and sympathy of others. Minimum time for home care, caress and help of a specialist. Only time will tell. If you adhere to such tactics, the chances of a speedy recovery increase many times over.