How to become indifferent to an exciting situation Bashny.Net

On the path of life can not do without experiences, difficult situations, losses. They make us who we are. No one is equally unhappy or happy, everyone’s sorrow is a very personal matter.

Sometimes it seems that the flood of failures will never end. We are alone in our grief. The most sensitive friends, relatives are unable to dull the piercing feeling of unrequited love, illness of a child or parents, dismissal, loss of a loved one.





Spiritual experiences Lilia Akhremchik is a psychologist, coach, publicist. She compares emotional experiences with physiological processes in the human body: “You cannot make blood clot faster, and cells regenerate faster. Everything happens at its own speed, in its own time. It's the same with the psyche. Let yourself get sick.





No one says time heals. It is impossible to forget which heartbreak You have experienced it, but you do not need to try to dull the bitter feeling.

Loss, separation, dislike, jealousy, rude word, unpleasant message - emotional experiences exhaust a personThey keep him from reality.





To run away from a problem is not to solve it. So you spend a few hours with your friends at the bar with distracting conversations, you buy junk, you dive into your work. It seems to get easier, but being alone with yourself, you fall into depression again.





The most useful thing that you can do for your own benefit is to accept a difficult situation, to live it: You should not run, not escape, but live. You gotta be sick. Like during the flu, you should lie in bed, drinking tea with lemon. We have to accept this condition. Acknowledge and name what you feel. Cry. Angry. To pour out anger, insists Lilia Ahremchik.





Don’t hold everything in yourself, let yourself cry, release negative energy, exhaust yourself in the gym, go to nature, draw a picture, even if you can’t draw. The main thing is to give the process as much energy as possible, completely immerse yourself in solving the problem.

Someone takes two weeks, someone takes years. The way to achieve harmony with yourself is individual, but you can not be distracted. The sooner you accept the situation, the easier it will be for you to deal with it.





“Psychic will activate the defense mechanism itself. If you don't bother her, it will. He will get sick and there will be apathy, indifference. Then there will be a calm understanding of what happened. Then accept the situation and want to move on. This is what you wanted right away, immediately, in the beginning.”





A good way to get rid of negative emotions is to practice yoga. There are several special asanas that will help you feel better and throw away the negative.

Friends do not always ask tactful questions, rather the opposite. When it comes to personal life, you need to be able to answer tactless questions and no longer go back to discussing them.

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