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When it's time to stop? One woman will forgive you for cheating, and another will get divorced because of outstanding toothpaste. Where is the fine line between the ability to endure and unwillingness to tolerate other people's habits?
To make a stranger a relative – not an easy task, but when the woman begins to live with a man, they both have to sacrifice and give up their "free" habits. This is a compromise, by which the existence of two gives a minimum of problems and maximum pleasure.
Every person with the years, there is your own way of life and the regime, to break or to rebuild which is not so simple. After living alone, you know that you can come home at night, without warning anyone about the delay, go to shoes in the living room, and eat ice cream in bed and the dishes to wash tomorrow.
When pair is formed, such actions – from both men and women, is unlikely to cause the approval of the partner, not to mention the fact that it can cause a strong conflict. If one person in a relationship is Smoking, and someone leads a healthy lifestyle, then Smoking in the kitchen can not be a part of their life together. When a man work need to get up at 7, and the woman at 9 am, and then you need to look for options, not to limit the communication to two hours in the evening before bed when you're ready to watch TV, and your favorite is already nodding.
The same applies to small habits, some of which can and should be forgiven, and after development, the other is to run like hell. But how to understand what? Why someone is willing to put up with, seemingly quite out of the ordinary things, while others break up over the smallest infraction?
A lot depends on the temperament of both partners. If a woman is quick-tempered, it can react violently at all unusual for her life. On the other hand, if in its interests to maintain good and peaceful relations with the man, eventually she will start to control yourself, noticing the scene is just silly. Is the game worth the candle?
The same applies to men. What are they willing to go to save at home harmony? Can I stay in the moment or to articulate their dissatisfaction with words that will not cause resentment and not hurt?
In situations where the partner is not able to comply with such limits and acts as if out of spite, provoking scandals, insults during an argument and gets personal – think about whether you need this family life? Compromise is a good way to keep the family together. In common life we every day, as if given a contract that we must sign, agreeing to the terms "residence". We choose to accept and what not. In the early stages of life together is very important to build these boundaries and rules so that no further conflict on an empty place, and any comment not ended with the collection of suitcases.
1. Try to talk more.
But to hold conversations in a quiet tone, without hysterics and high voices. If you know that you usual irritability and during the conversation you can break out, choose alternative methods of negotiations. For example, let's back up and discuss "scattered socks" in writing. This will give the opportunity to think over each word, and the lack of audio and video saves you from unnecessary emotional each other.
2. Be an example
If you need something from men, demand it from yourself. Agreed to wash the dishes every a – so, hang in there and do your duty as an equal.
3. Think ahead
When you have a desire to scold, reprove or to rebuke man – analyze the possible results. Than at the end of the night to be over? But whether this reproach spoiled the mood of two loving people?
4. Negotiate the terms
For example, you and your man once a week you want to spend your free time with your friends. Together, select a day, agree on terms – say, to arrive no later than three or call in the evening once an hour.
5. Do not complicate
There are offenses that can be attributed to fatigue, carelessness, frustration, or carelessness – they are not terrible and not offensive. Another thing, when they show the default behavior of the man, his morals and principles, traits that to living together was not apparent.
And remember, a woman is able on compromises than a man because she's in the house creates warmth, comfort and harmony.
Source: domashniy.ru/
When it's time to stop? One woman will forgive you for cheating, and another will get divorced because of outstanding toothpaste. Where is the fine line between the ability to endure and unwillingness to tolerate other people's habits?
To make a stranger a relative – not an easy task, but when the woman begins to live with a man, they both have to sacrifice and give up their "free" habits. This is a compromise, by which the existence of two gives a minimum of problems and maximum pleasure.
Every person with the years, there is your own way of life and the regime, to break or to rebuild which is not so simple. After living alone, you know that you can come home at night, without warning anyone about the delay, go to shoes in the living room, and eat ice cream in bed and the dishes to wash tomorrow.
When pair is formed, such actions – from both men and women, is unlikely to cause the approval of the partner, not to mention the fact that it can cause a strong conflict. If one person in a relationship is Smoking, and someone leads a healthy lifestyle, then Smoking in the kitchen can not be a part of their life together. When a man work need to get up at 7, and the woman at 9 am, and then you need to look for options, not to limit the communication to two hours in the evening before bed when you're ready to watch TV, and your favorite is already nodding.
The same applies to small habits, some of which can and should be forgiven, and after development, the other is to run like hell. But how to understand what? Why someone is willing to put up with, seemingly quite out of the ordinary things, while others break up over the smallest infraction?
A lot depends on the temperament of both partners. If a woman is quick-tempered, it can react violently at all unusual for her life. On the other hand, if in its interests to maintain good and peaceful relations with the man, eventually she will start to control yourself, noticing the scene is just silly. Is the game worth the candle?
The same applies to men. What are they willing to go to save at home harmony? Can I stay in the moment or to articulate their dissatisfaction with words that will not cause resentment and not hurt?
In situations where the partner is not able to comply with such limits and acts as if out of spite, provoking scandals, insults during an argument and gets personal – think about whether you need this family life? Compromise is a good way to keep the family together. In common life we every day, as if given a contract that we must sign, agreeing to the terms "residence". We choose to accept and what not. In the early stages of life together is very important to build these boundaries and rules so that no further conflict on an empty place, and any comment not ended with the collection of suitcases.
1. Try to talk more.
But to hold conversations in a quiet tone, without hysterics and high voices. If you know that you usual irritability and during the conversation you can break out, choose alternative methods of negotiations. For example, let's back up and discuss "scattered socks" in writing. This will give the opportunity to think over each word, and the lack of audio and video saves you from unnecessary emotional each other.
2. Be an example
If you need something from men, demand it from yourself. Agreed to wash the dishes every a – so, hang in there and do your duty as an equal.
3. Think ahead
When you have a desire to scold, reprove or to rebuke man – analyze the possible results. Than at the end of the night to be over? But whether this reproach spoiled the mood of two loving people?
4. Negotiate the terms
For example, you and your man once a week you want to spend your free time with your friends. Together, select a day, agree on terms – say, to arrive no later than three or call in the evening once an hour.
5. Do not complicate
There are offenses that can be attributed to fatigue, carelessness, frustration, or carelessness – they are not terrible and not offensive. Another thing, when they show the default behavior of the man, his morals and principles, traits that to living together was not apparent.
And remember, a woman is able on compromises than a man because she's in the house creates warmth, comfort and harmony.
Source: domashniy.ru/
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