The child does not need to educate and raise

Sc.D., professor of Moscow State University. Lomonosov Yuliya Gippenreyter knows what needs to be done to both children and their parents were happy. His invaluable experience she shares in the books, lectures, seminars and publications. < Website

About education

• Raising a child - it's not taming. I do not like the verb " educate ».
  
  
  
  
  • Think of Michelangelo's fresco of God Created by Adam. Their hands are about to meet; powerful, muscular hand of God rushes to the outstretched hand of Adam. Adult - the carrier of knowledge, wisdom, ethical principles. He sends all his child. When the child has grown and can live independently, an adult should push his hand. Because the hand of the child has already found its own power. He is an individual person. Parental mission is over Education - it is child abuse.
  • Disobedience - the only thing that a child may oppose wrong Treatment with him. angry, to get attention, Teenage fashion similar to chickenpox Discipline not before, but after the establishment of good relations Your baby needs a negative experience Children often think that their parents - "Iron Felix»
  • Self-esteem of the child measured his actions But the child can not live with a bad opinion of himself, he turned on the mechanism of self-salvation. As the dog of herbs, a teenager looking for a place to get the approval, support, recognition. He is looking for somewhere authoritative opinion, and from a bandit, it comes or father - he does not care.
  • The school as an organization is not interested in the development of creative thinking and the child's independence When a child is forced, threatened, when the teacher says: "I do not translate to the next grade" or "All the learned, and why are you so stupid?" - In the child's fear and instill a sense of inferiority. He lost the energy, the desire to do something. Therefore, parents have to make a choice: either stand on the side of the school, or to the side of the child. Inspire - that is the task of the adult. If the school does not do this, it means that parents have to do - at least the first steps in this direction. To release the child from prinudilovki, tell him: "You do not have». One of the participants of my workshops told me that it caused a teacher and began to scold her son: he is so-and-so, He and the fifth and tenth. But this mom just said: "You know, Nina, I love my boy!" And Nina stopped. This is one answer. There is another opposite. "Thank you all told me this, I see your strong desire to help my child get out of this unpleasant situation. I'll do what you told me. " Then come in and say, "You must have noticed an improvement, and I am too. I am sure this is due to your efforts. " Teachers are people too The school - it's time. And your relationship with the child - forever.
    
    
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