4 sure sign unpromising relationship

John Gottman has studied the problems of marriage and the family for 40 years. He was quite a five-minute conversation to a 91-percent accuracy to predict whether the couple is waiting for a divorce. As he defines it? In his book, "The Seven Principles of a successful marriage," Gottman calls the four indicators, which can tell whether a marital relationship Future:

1. Criticism
2. contempt
3. The defensive behavior
4. Otmalchivanie


Gottman studies have shown that the relationship breaks is not a difference of opinion and preferences of the couple. 69% of the problems can not be solved in a couple.
Psychologist Dan Wyle wrote in his book "After the honeymoon" "When you choose a partner with whom intend to live your life ... you will inevitably get and a set of intractable problems that you have to deal with the next ten, twenty or fifty years».

And a few more interesting facts from the book of John Gottman:

"A bad marriage increases susceptibility to disease by about 35%, and even shorten life by an average of four years».

"In 96% of cases for the first three minutes, you can predict what the outcome of fifteen-minute conversation»

"I found that in 94% of the future couple has a pleasant shared memories, too, is happy. If memories are changed and distorted - this alarm ».

Source: www.mixstuff.ru

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