Technique-determination: exercises for speech Bashny.Net

Technique-determination through speechPreface to the technique of speech (or rather, the "speaking" – with what, how and why we speak) I want to write passages from the book of Carlos Castaneda "Separate reality»:

"I'll tell you what we are talking to ourselves. We're talking about our inner world. In fact we maintain our world with our internal talk.

— When we stop talking to him, the world is always as it should be. We are updating it and giving it life, support it with our internal talk. But not only that – we also choose our paths, talking with him. And so we repeat the same election again and again until, until you die…

-How to stop talking to yourself?

The warrior understands that the world will change as soon as he stops talking to himself.

The world is so-and-so or something just because we tell ourselves that he is. If we stop telling ourselves that the world is so, the world will cease to be that."

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Practice to work with "speaking", I want to suggest to you, is not something unbearable or magic. It is just a way to "break" the usual understanding about themselves and the world. And this, in turn, may allow, finally, to get everyone out of the "reality train," in which he goes at present and in the passenger seat of another train. After all, what we need to get a life – start doing something else: not what we did before and always. And if you are not satisfied with your current life, change it by changing his behavior (and its components – habits, speech, actions).

To start doing something new, well enough to understand what and how we do it always (usually). And only then will be able to change it. Just for introspection (knowing what and how you are doing – in particular when talking) and subsequent modifications I offer you this practice.

Practices work with yourself to change patterns of their behavior, there are many. However, it is very important in how we live. Ulterior motive "in the beginning was the word" because "as you a boat name, so it will float": our perception is through the designation of something in words, in speech. The speech (naming, marking through words) that gives us feelings and thoughts – the ones that are only for us related to what we consider reality. And that is why, changing your voice (ponimatelnaya and govoryashie) habits, we can really change your world. To expand the boundaries of its perception. To escape from problems that might not exist, do not click the box when we have something for everyone peace and life to those words which outlined the…

In General, the practice will not impose, to argue its significance is not collected. Who wants to get this tool, I suggest to use it. Wrote about what I realized in the process of life itself and how to use this understanding for yourself to understand ashushenie internal balance and its relationship with the conversations in your own life.

For this practice, you can use any parts of my communication with people. Start first watch (to watch others, it is better to first develop your inner observer and is well aware of what is happening within himself) during interviews with different people.

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How to observe it and what to pay attention?1. In the process of communication asked the question "what am I saying now?» that is , how informative, insightful and meaningful in my speech: does it in the moment, something really important from the point of view of the sending or receiving of information, whether it is interesting in fact, and whether or not it's something that needs to improve communication or knowledge of something valuable by the parties to the communication. Very important and back the question "What am I listening to (receive the in information form)?"

Why should you ask such questions?Whether you know it or not, when felt or thought about such moments, however, the "empty" shaking the air "empty" words, and even passive participation in such conversations is the path to the loss of energy. And you probably felt tired after conversations about nothing with people who love to gossip, for example.

However, the question of the fullness of his speech, meaning and content need to ask in the first place itself to determine what filled inside you yourself because the topics you alive echo, or the reasons for the beginning of conversations will tell you exactly about your problems and "ills" that "clings" to the external information.

2. Get yourself a notebook or a few sheets to work with it. And when is a time to work on the first question, write down the problems that you for some reason really care about.

3. Look at the list of your key concerns, and mark the ones you can really solve in his life. They can either be working with some of your personality traits or the need to take certain steps to resolve the slowdown issue that you don't even remember, but which is reminiscent of something from the outside. And, of course, especially note what you can not influence (for example, to join some former social.countries to NATO – this example is excerpted from my life, heard the bitter lamentations of the women about it in the store).

Clearly understand what you need to resolve issues that are within your influence, make a plan and start to solve them. Not less clearly realize that all that you can't influence, but that is a waste of your emotions and strength – it "hooks" to which you cling, thanks to well-mannered in you beliefs regarding, for example, patriotism. In fact, you solution to these questions, but in fact it turns out that discussing some of these problems, you are wasting your life. But life is something you do in this incarnation is one, and surely it is given to you is not to discuss the problems of the former socialist.camps. Agree? In General, separate "flies from cutlets" and do not connect them using questions about what you say or listen to at the moment.

4. The next question is for introspection (and self-improvement — this issue is especially): "What is the emotional subtext of my speech?»

Given example. Sometimes you're talking to a man, and he seems to be saying something good, but you start to feel not very well. While I can't understand why? This is because the person telling you about some nice and interesting event, even without calling it in words, really feel envy of what says. Or envy, but any other negatives about the content of his story. And you (we, almost all) just don't catch as much content as the emotional background of the story.

So, by the way, it is good to define "toxic" people – whatever they may say, the emotional background of their negative speech always, or nearly always, in most cases. Naturally, everyone decides for himself whether he is and why communicating with people is toxic. But we practice with his speech, so the important thing is to follow what the emotional background in the process of your own voice, because our emotions are components of our energy. In what moments you fill his speech with a negative or positive, in the "throw" to the people around you your negatively-charged energy. Similarly, as with the first question – write down a list of topics that cause you persistent negative. Realize that whomever you were angry, and the emotion you carry with you, creating in your body "deposits" of negativity, and besides, occasionally throwing it at innocent others.

Understand, this is your energy and it or goes with it, or fills you, or creates an imbalance within you.

A speech in humans involves a large amount of energy, that's why word can hurt, and spice. Learn to use your speech to fill yourself with energy. How? From time to time to keep silence is the best way not-waste itself in empty.

 5. The last important question:

"Why am I saying this now?» – that is,

• why it is so important to me now to say it,
• why is it the people or person who are listening to me at the moment,
• is it really so important that you need to talk about it out loud to someone?
• which gives what I have said to me or others?
• what I decided to say something right now?

In answering these questions, you will be able to learn to understand their "importance", their real value and necessity of presence in my life. So often we think that something definitely need to tell someone- we are sure that this way will help another person, although assistance in the moment we didn't ask. And thus we come not to the understanding, and the disappointment it always comes to those who undertook to render services which he did not ask. It happens that in the process of self-observation with the help of asking myself the question "why am I doing this?"we are beginning to understand that talking to us is only important for us, and we (for some reason) believed that and others it is just as important.

The answer to the question, "why?"will help reveal the presence of internal problems at the level of the senses of man. And at the same time be aware of whether these meanings have a meaning for you…

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Ask this question, and it will help you to find the balance between speaking and hearing others, at least. Other useful hand, the practices of this matter you can discover yourself.

6. Also keep in mind another point: often, for good interaction with other people enough to listen to what we ask for, and comply with such request and all. As a rule, almost all the people can say what they want or would do as a your help. However, while we talk a lot and loud, we cannot hear others, and sometimes just do not allow them to manifest. Thus have no opportunity to hear any others or ourselves in a calm state. And, accordingly, to establish the necessary interaction and to feel in balance and joy.

Practice your speaking and speech. And your world will change. And people around will see in a different light. And you will be required to fill your life with energy and force, if you will not squander nowhere by a very important tool of interaction with yourself, the people and the world – words and all that lies behind them. published 

Author: Marina Sergeeva

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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