Can a friend replace a psychologist Bashny.Net

Today, amid the growing popularity of Western values (including going to therapy take pride of place), more and more people want to monitor their mental health properly, that is, fashionable. But on the way to potential psychological happiness are friends – their support is much more familiar and more comfortable than the unknown (and paid) the arms of the professional.

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In a perfect world all people miraculously realize that they need professional help, come to them and solve their problems. We live in such a fabulous reality, the question in the title of the article would not even have arisen.

In fact all the more difficult. Most people volunteer psychologists do not give up. Someone (especially older people) do not think about this possibility, others see themselves as perfectly normal/healthy, third – incurably mad, and the fourth, ironically, stop the indecision and fears.

It turns out, for 99% of the population relatives and friends were, are and will be the only psychological help – not only the first but also the last. And it is a reality to be reckoned with.





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It is bad psychological help from friends? Not at all.

You should start with the fact that most people have no serious problems "in the head", especially if you leave everyone the right to keep skeletons in the closet and harmless oddities. Consequently, this vast number of people enough to chat with friends and get positive emotions – the effect will completely cover receive a daily "psychological scratch."

Among friends can be very knowledgeable, wise people with vein of "natural psychologist." Their help may be no worse for the efforts of the professional and even more effective due to the existing trust.

But the availability of friendly psychological help has its price. In the process of "Amateur psychotherapy" lurks many dangers, like needing advice and support, and fans to try on an imaginary white coat.

As a patient you can get on to very evil "doctor". After all, not all people, has won the trust and considered to be friends, really love you. Yes, they will represent all kinds of participation, to create the appearance of care (or sometimes even help in fact), but their attitude towards you will never be sincere. You can send them to a chosen path, is secretly hurt, or simply to amuse vanity of the received power. It is easy to guess that such "help" anything good in the future should not wait.

Playing doctor Dolittle (or house), you can easily get endless interview with the vampire as a snack. Some people don't need your wise advices, sincere support and friendly help. But they will be sincerely glad to your attention, and ultimately, the blood, which will draw endless complaints, ideas, and tears. You inject so much negativity, how much it will get until you explode. You will never be able to help such a "sufferer", but your mental health hard to mess up.

The situation may be the opposite (and generally most common) is the "doctor" would be too nice and agree with you in all judgments. It is, of course, will shoulder, scold your enemies, will provide some optimism, but it will only work with the symptoms and not the causes of psychological illness. You will receive a temporary comfort, but no long-term effect and positive changes can be expected.

And even if both participants of the process are really friendly, ready for a sober assessment of the situation and constructive criticism, they are still not immune from bad help each other.

Special mention deserves the common issue of "psychological lovers" – people, gained his enlightenment under the soft covers psychological consumer goods. As a rule, their knowledge is superficial and unsystematic, but they are much more aggressive push on the heads of others, believing that they have the necessary "qualifications." From such assistants is often much more harm than from the less "aware" of the comforters.

Friends, in the end, as heroic saviors, and a rare psychological pests. But always there – and that's something.





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What these psychologists, certified specialists? They were not all so is simple.

If the market to ask the seller if he has sweet apples, he'll respond positively, putting all his acting talent to the destruction of your doubts. It's his job. Sweet but do they really? As truthful and psychologists (and any other professionals) when answering questions about their own need and services provided. In other words, psychologists will always say that they are the best help. But is it really?

Not always. After all, if every psychologist really helped their wards, the world would see more rainbows, joy, and chocolate. But this is not happening. And the reason is that the Earth is haunting the huge number of "average" psychologists are only able to conduct tests and monotonous presentation of memorized formulations. Visit one of these would be difficult to call not only salutary, but even useful.

The services of a good specialist are worth the money, and considerable. Not every inhabitant of our country will be able to select such amounts without the risk of falling into a new depression from the cost of treatment old.

Psychologists, however, have a number of advantages over even your best friends. And most importantly – they are not your friends, and have a neutral look from outside. The treatment has a chance to be ruthless (you will speak the truth without fear of offending), and therefore effective. With a real psychologist decreases the chance that you will use any strange methods (for an invention which is capable of friends), in addition, your problems and confessions will be anonymous, which can be important.

Finally, running psychological problems can grow into psychiatry – and even then I will not need a shoulder for crying, and clothing with longer sleeves. If you feel that mad (or so the sad fate of your friend), seriously consider professional assistance. Confession friends will not do here.

Not every psychologist is a friend and Savior of man with problems. But a good specialist can really help and sometimes vital.

Who won?

In a dispute between the salvific role of friends and psychologists can only be a draw.

It turns out that friends just can't replace psychologists, but, as a rule, they were replaced and firmly hold their positions. And it's not bad if you have good, real friends they will try to help you to the best of their ability. Most of the time.

But sometimes there are times when your things go really bad, and solutions are not able to offer none of the others. Then professional assistance may interrupt a prolonged black strip.

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