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Divorce in modern life has become almost the norm. But in spite of this, for each individual family is stressful. Creates a feeling the end of life, despair. However, to build a new relationship.

There are a lot of reasons which becomes the divorce. With the least losses to get out of the divorce process with mutual consent due to "not get along". Many are breaking up because of infidelity of a spouse. This separation mandatory event has a negative impact on self-esteem of the victim.

However, life goes on. The possibility of establishing a new relationship is on both sides, but keep in mind some of the nuances that cannot fail to influence the construction of subsequent relationships.

Rule goodbyes

The main condition for the harmonious sequential relationship – is a complete cessation of the previous one. Often, after a divorce a person experiences moral devastation, if the reason for divorce was adultery of the spouse. If the divorce occurred because of bad relations in the family, for example, domestic violence, the woman, and often the object of violence is that it is, it will still be hard to believe in the nobility and decency of men.

According to psychologists, start to build new relations should start no earlier than a year after the divorce. During the year a person is able to "let go" of the relationship and "put the squeeze" divorce. After the divorce, as the marriage is not a stamp in the passport, but a state of mind.

The repeat rule , Often after a divorce, a man in a hurry to build a new relationship with the sole purpose to prove to the former spouse its relevance. It's not fair to the new elect, and cruel to yourself. If there is an exact setup to create a new marriage, and there is a Challenger, it is advisable to match some of his qualities with the qualities of the former spouse, and at the slightest coincidence to postpone the conclusion of a formal relationship, so as not to repeat the same mistakes. But in any case, it is not necessary to dive into a new relationship, not moving away from the old.

The rule of healing , There is a danger for the abandoned spouse to eternal victim status. It's more than likely if the divorce occurs because of infidelity or violence. Of course, that the pain of former relationships has an impact on the overall psychological state, but that pain is necessary to get rid of. There is a simple but quite effective technique is to perform all the "pro" and "contra" of divorce. Importantly – on the basis of the analysis to simulate the internal state, lets look at the world through the eyes of a person is open to relationships.

The rule of the findings Possible that you will have to soberly evaluate their own behavior in a previous marriage relationship. It is possible that the behavior of the former spouse was provoked. To avoid a repetition of the scenario, costs of the time devoted to the analysis of their own mistakes. In any conflict, there is fault on both sides, and if we failed to solve the problem in some respects, it is necessary to take measures not to repeat them again.published

Source: domashniy.ru/