7 non-obvious truths: instruction caring father Bashny.Net

Seven of these "truths" are formulated worried father, who is growing up two sons. These statements may seem too basic or too controversial, but each of them clearly sufferings:

1. Not in everything that happens, you should seek the hidden meaning (and not everything that is done - for the better)

The Holocaust was clearly not an integral part of the great plan of the Creator, in which everything turns out for the benefit of the people. And if after the interview goes to work to someone else, it does not mean that somewhere around the corner you will find another, better offer.

Even a very religious people, if they are able to talk sensibly, will agree with this.

2. Life - numbers game

If you have one chance in a million to dine with the model, which means that the goal will have to be invited to dinner million models. Same story with sending out resumes, obtaining important positions or selling crazy business ideas.

A thousand attempts will give you total 0, 1-percent chance of success, and a million attempts - a good chance to do something incredible.

But if he wins, you can forget about all your failures - no one will remember how many there were.

3. Civilization not your friend

State schools, businesses - all of these systems are based on the submission, and they do not necessarily see friends. Civilization spread throughout the world not because of its setting can make people happier.

In order to maintain itself, it tries to hammer into your head sometimes quite absurd. So if someone climbs out of his way, trying to convince you of something, think hard about why they need it.

4. Do you have a subconscious, which is trying to lead you

Not everything we do is subject to the logic. Sometimes we just think that we believe in some things. Do you think that can not stand this guy because he is not an upstart. And in fact, he just jealous. Or maybe he likes girls more than you.

Of course, for anything you do not agree with. The subconscious mind is so called subconscious that bypasses our explicit reasoning.

Most worryingly, to others, as a rule, your jealousy is absolutely obvious.

5. Chemistry - a great power, to which should be treated respectfully

If you feel an attack of irritability, think that there is enough sleep last night, ate there, how long have engaged lo * catfish or maybe it's time to smoke.

If this is not the case, then reread n. 4

6. Anger useless. At least in most cases

Suppose someone disagrees with you and you start yelling at him. Why? To the source of your frightened cry and began to think in the same way as you do?

Or your girlfriend looked at another guy. From what you are angry, that he has become less attractive?

Seneca claimed that anger does not bring anyone any good. He believed that we should get rid of all emotions and nothing will not lose.

However, the Seneca sometimes pretended to be angry. Otherwise, people who grew up with the constantly screaming at them parents did not believe in the seriousness of his words.

7. From guilt, too much use

Cats are no feelings of guilt. And cows too. In dogs there, but only because we educate them so.

Feelings of guilt - is a complex set of emotions, and it does not play such a significant role. This is a form of post-traumatic stress, reflex caused by fear of punishment.

Feelings of guilt is useless. Even if you destroy someone's life, guilt nothing to fix. Another thing - the intention to do the right thing and correct their mistakes. That's really valuable.
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