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Why you should not be rude to close people
Getting married, a woman wants to feel care and support from her beloved man. But it often happens that a sweet and compliant husband after a while turns into a family tyrant, from whose mouth unpleasant words are constantly broken. Sometimes even in public.
What is it like for a woman? She feels humiliation and resentment, looks for flaws in herself, tries to correct mistakes. But the husband again finds something to complain about, and the flow of insults does not end. What to do: take radical measures or solve the problem in a different way?
A spouse can be rude to me even in the company of friends. You say something offensive, you raise your voice. I prefer to be silent so as not to quarrel in public, but he is not far behind. And when I try to discuss it with him at home, he dismisses it as my own fault.”
“My friends are amazed at his behavior and ask me what I did to him. What do I say? In short, I got tired of being patient, packed my bags and left. I seem to love, and I am not sure that I am doing the right thing, but I do not want to continue living this way, 24-year-old Maria shares her experiences.
I want to support the choice of this young woman, because leaving a loved one is not easy. However, living under constant psychological pressure is even more difficult. Moreover, a person who does not know how to control emotions can even be dangerous. Therefore, ending such a relationship is not the worst choice, given that the couple does not yet have children. After all, it'll be harder to leave.
But for what reasons? family culture It can get so low, and who is usually to blame?
“At the first manifestation of disrespect on the part of the husband, and this must have been in private, one should calmly and confidently ask him not to speak in such a tone again. After all, if you do not stop intemperance, then it will become a habit, and in this case, the spouse will even allow himself to be superfluous in public, says psychologist Olga Agafonova.
“It is important to convey that such words hurt you, that they are unpleasant and unacceptable. And if there is a problem, it should be voiced calmly and tactfully, and solved only together.”
“If the husband constantly insults, does not meet, does not respond to requests and does not try to change his behavior in any way, he either does not want to preserve the relationship himself or is not ready to do anything for the sake of this relationship. Can you build your dream family in this way? If not, what's the point of enduring it? the psychologist asks.
It is difficult to disagree with Olga, because we also believe that it is better to be a happy woman than an exemplary wife. By the way, recently we quoted the words of Sheikh al-Qarni, who resolves any disagreements with his wife in a matter of minutes and always observes. family rules. Find out how he does it.
What is it like for a woman? She feels humiliation and resentment, looks for flaws in herself, tries to correct mistakes. But the husband again finds something to complain about, and the flow of insults does not end. What to do: take radical measures or solve the problem in a different way?
A spouse can be rude to me even in the company of friends. You say something offensive, you raise your voice. I prefer to be silent so as not to quarrel in public, but he is not far behind. And when I try to discuss it with him at home, he dismisses it as my own fault.”
“My friends are amazed at his behavior and ask me what I did to him. What do I say? In short, I got tired of being patient, packed my bags and left. I seem to love, and I am not sure that I am doing the right thing, but I do not want to continue living this way, 24-year-old Maria shares her experiences.
I want to support the choice of this young woman, because leaving a loved one is not easy. However, living under constant psychological pressure is even more difficult. Moreover, a person who does not know how to control emotions can even be dangerous. Therefore, ending such a relationship is not the worst choice, given that the couple does not yet have children. After all, it'll be harder to leave.
But for what reasons? family culture It can get so low, and who is usually to blame?
- No more warm feelings.
Each couple goes through a stage when their feelings lose their previous strength. And here we need mutual efforts to maintain the former warmth and strengthen relations.
- A mistress appeared.
Having another woman, a man breaks down on his wife to push her to leave the family. After a divorce, he will have his hands freed to build a new relationship. - Disappeared respect
There could be many reasons. One of the most popular is that a woman has stopped taking care of herself (for example, due to exhausting work, pregnancy or childcare).
- Low self-esteem
Men with low self-esteem often prefer to find a scapegoat to rise in their own eyes. And insulting his wife in public, they try to rise in the eyes of other people. - Wife's disrespect
If the spouse controls her husband at every step, checks the phone, digs in her pockets, then this behavior destroys herself in the eyes of her beloved.
“At the first manifestation of disrespect on the part of the husband, and this must have been in private, one should calmly and confidently ask him not to speak in such a tone again. After all, if you do not stop intemperance, then it will become a habit, and in this case, the spouse will even allow himself to be superfluous in public, says psychologist Olga Agafonova.
“It is important to convey that such words hurt you, that they are unpleasant and unacceptable. And if there is a problem, it should be voiced calmly and tactfully, and solved only together.”
“If the husband constantly insults, does not meet, does not respond to requests and does not try to change his behavior in any way, he either does not want to preserve the relationship himself or is not ready to do anything for the sake of this relationship. Can you build your dream family in this way? If not, what's the point of enduring it? the psychologist asks.
It is difficult to disagree with Olga, because we also believe that it is better to be a happy woman than an exemplary wife. By the way, recently we quoted the words of Sheikh al-Qarni, who resolves any disagreements with his wife in a matter of minutes and always observes. family rules. Find out how he does it.