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How to treat your child’s friends correctly
Sometimes you have to deal with strange human biases that just unsettle you. You didn't think about it before, and then you face it head-on. This is exactly what happened to my close friend recently.
Today's edition. "Site" He wants to tell you a story and get your opinion on it. Let's get to parenting.
The basics of raising children "Yesterday went with his son to the playground." Running, then playing in the sandbox. Other children came running to the court, the game began, and I went to the bench to play.”
“The grandmother of one of the boys who came to play in the sandbox sat on the bench. Grandma was very talkative and a conversation ensued. She told me about her granddaughter: his name is Ilyusha, he is almost 5. She talked about the mugs she was taking him to, as well as recently purchased toys. So the subject has moved smoothly to money.”
“Grandma began to say that children are expensive pleasures. They need to buy clothes, good food and all sorts of toys. I also want to get somewhere to keep some memories. It's not cheap. Basically, the conversation turned into a monologue where I just sat and listened.
And then this grandmother says, “I forbid my daughter to give birth to another one.” One of them has money, but the other may not be able to pull. And he will, so should I pick him up? Or beggars? There's this one.
“Grandma pointed to a woman who came to the playground with two children. She was dressed simply, without frills. Children are also in normal clothes and with simple toys. Although, if she hadn't paid attention to it, I wouldn't have noticed or thought about it.
The grandmother continued her tirade: Why did she give birth? Two more! So you can go out and browse our toys? These boys always look at Ilyusha’s toys and try to play. And I forbid him to approach them, they have a bad influence on him. He doesn’t need to talk to the poor, they are terrible.
“I couldn’t even answer her, I was stunned. I looked at the boys and they played so well. Ilyusha and my son happily share toys, take toys of those boys. And everything is harmonious, no one asks questions of wealth and poverty. While I was thinking about it, Grandma ran to the sandbox.
Pulled out her grandson by the hand, shook the sand and dragged away from the playground with the words: “Send Ilyusha, you do not need to play with these children, you will play at home.” Take your toys and let's go.” Sad and incomprehensible Ilyusha followed his grandmother, and the children calmly continued to play.”
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“I was left confused. I don't know why these kids are so horrible. Does the fact that they are poor make them bad? And since you don't have such cool toys, you can't play with you? It became sad and hard on the soul. I still can’t stop thinking about it...
My friend is very impressionable, so I decided to share the story with us. Honestly, this rebuke from Grandma also confused us. Of course, there is no clear answer whether she is right or not, but still it seemed wrong to us. It's my grandmother's personal opinion, but she's raising a child.
This is hardly a good example. parenting. Kids don’t care about wealth and money, they’ll go pick their own nut leaves and say they’re fabulously rich. Why say that someone is worse because they don’t have enough of these “lists”?
Overall, we were left confused. What do you think about that? Do you forbid your child to play with any children?
We have previously discussed whether children should share their toys with other children.
We also talked about whether to leave children for the upbringing of grandparents.
We also discussed the modern education of children and its main features.
Today's edition. "Site" He wants to tell you a story and get your opinion on it. Let's get to parenting.
The basics of raising children "Yesterday went with his son to the playground." Running, then playing in the sandbox. Other children came running to the court, the game began, and I went to the bench to play.”
“The grandmother of one of the boys who came to play in the sandbox sat on the bench. Grandma was very talkative and a conversation ensued. She told me about her granddaughter: his name is Ilyusha, he is almost 5. She talked about the mugs she was taking him to, as well as recently purchased toys. So the subject has moved smoothly to money.”
“Grandma began to say that children are expensive pleasures. They need to buy clothes, good food and all sorts of toys. I also want to get somewhere to keep some memories. It's not cheap. Basically, the conversation turned into a monologue where I just sat and listened.
And then this grandmother says, “I forbid my daughter to give birth to another one.” One of them has money, but the other may not be able to pull. And he will, so should I pick him up? Or beggars? There's this one.
“Grandma pointed to a woman who came to the playground with two children. She was dressed simply, without frills. Children are also in normal clothes and with simple toys. Although, if she hadn't paid attention to it, I wouldn't have noticed or thought about it.
The grandmother continued her tirade: Why did she give birth? Two more! So you can go out and browse our toys? These boys always look at Ilyusha’s toys and try to play. And I forbid him to approach them, they have a bad influence on him. He doesn’t need to talk to the poor, they are terrible.
“I couldn’t even answer her, I was stunned. I looked at the boys and they played so well. Ilyusha and my son happily share toys, take toys of those boys. And everything is harmonious, no one asks questions of wealth and poverty. While I was thinking about it, Grandma ran to the sandbox.
Pulled out her grandson by the hand, shook the sand and dragged away from the playground with the words: “Send Ilyusha, you do not need to play with these children, you will play at home.” Take your toys and let's go.” Sad and incomprehensible Ilyusha followed his grandmother, and the children calmly continued to play.”
1785-1966
“I was left confused. I don't know why these kids are so horrible. Does the fact that they are poor make them bad? And since you don't have such cool toys, you can't play with you? It became sad and hard on the soul. I still can’t stop thinking about it...
My friend is very impressionable, so I decided to share the story with us. Honestly, this rebuke from Grandma also confused us. Of course, there is no clear answer whether she is right or not, but still it seemed wrong to us. It's my grandmother's personal opinion, but she's raising a child.
This is hardly a good example. parenting. Kids don’t care about wealth and money, they’ll go pick their own nut leaves and say they’re fabulously rich. Why say that someone is worse because they don’t have enough of these “lists”?
Overall, we were left confused. What do you think about that? Do you forbid your child to play with any children?
We have previously discussed whether children should share their toys with other children.
We also talked about whether to leave children for the upbringing of grandparents.
We also discussed the modern education of children and its main features.
