How to learn how to maintain self-esteem

A lady is not only a polite appeal to a woman of noble origin. A real lady is more than that. In the presence of such a woman, others try to somehow tighten up, seem more polite, pleasant, intelligent. It’s like they’re trying to reach her level, even though they’re behaving like they were with other girls. Why the difference?

Today we discuss what distinguishes a real lady from other women and what features a lady can and should acquire. It is not about money or property, but about the qualities that make a person better.





The real Lady is democratic, but not dissoluted. The lady keeps her distance, but does not dispense with arrogance. The lady does not adapt to the interlocutor, but talks warmly and friendly to everyone. And the lady does not fall into ambiguous situations, which is considered almost her main advantage.





The lady is disciplined, but does not demand from others what she does not do herself. Therefore, such a woman is not more than a quarter of an hour late, and she does not wait for anyone longer. He does not promise anything, but he promises what he will do.

A lady is noble, which means she can give more than she asks for without charging for every act of generosity. Is it important to be noble today? It is enough to see how men have fun with pretentious beauties, and then marry ordinary womenThose who have dignity, who understand and forgive, who demand nothing in return.





Psychologist Anna Kiryanova believes that ladyship It is a continuation of a woman’s inner worldview. And the mental difference between an ordinary woman and a lady is that the latter has a sense of self-worth and acknowledges that others have it.

“A writer once visited London. When she came across a public toilet, she was surprised to notice a sign above the door that reads “For women, admission is free.” For a lady, one pence. Surprisingly, there was an inscription above the other door: “For men, admission is free.” For gentlemen, one pence.

And while the writer was thinking about the difference between a lady and an ordinary woman, a policeman approached her and politely asked if she had any problems with change. Otherwise, he, like a real gentleman, is ready to serve the lady, says the psychologist.





It would seem how strange and stiff these Englishmen. But if you think about it, these simple inscriptions hide a deep meaning. Ladies and gentlemen always pay for themselves. Do not climb forward, do not push the elbows of others to get something for nothing. They are not free if they are able to pay.

They are not used to using freebie not because they are asked for money. Ladies and gentlemen pay for every service or thing for the reason that it allows you to save money. self-esteem. Give only 1 pence to not lose self-esteem.





But some consider it necessary to pay for themselves, even if no one sees it and does not appreciate it, and on occasion delicately help a neighbor who is in a difficult situation. While others will refuse to give a small coin even for themselves. It is from this inner feeling that all the difference grows. Day after day, year after year...





To be a woman or a man, you do not need to make any effort, it is given from birth. But being a lady or a gentleman is more difficult, even if it is a small coin that you can either give away, or save and forget. But it is not so much about money as about self-respect and respect for others.

And the easiest way to boost self-esteem is to pay for a thing or service, even if no one wants it or expects it. That's why ladies' rules And gentlemen always pay for themselves.

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