Spouse – lover to hold a grudge and puff up, even when completely wrong

Resentment against a person never just happens. It usually occurs due to some actions that affect boundary. It is the violation of these boundaries that leads to anger, resentment and other spiritual discomfort. Is resentment always a reaction to this?

Have you ever been offended by a person who has offended you, and you have already had to ask for forgiveness from him? Such behavior is not uncommon in modern families. Sometimes such relationships are characteristic of parents and children, and sometimes married couples. My friend, for example, is already tired of her husband constantly resenting her. This happens when she is hurt herself.



First, it is important to understand the situation and determine true cause of injury. Sometimes this word means a whole range of different emotions: anger, irritation, anxiety, fear or sadness. For example, we are sad that a loved one pays us little attention. We are afraid that his feelings for us cool down, and therefore we go into offense.



Our partner can’t read minds. He doesn't know it's not him. It's our fear, and we've screwed ourselves up. In this situation, it is better not to close in on yourself, engaged in self-pity, but to go out on the frankly. Ask your loved one what is really bothering you, what are you afraid of?



Closeness, constant resentment and winding up are signs emotional immaturity. People who are not used to understanding their feelings act randomly and follow the path of least resistance. Why would you? The True Causes of Their ConditionsWhat if I could just shut myself up? There are few relationships that can withstand this behavior, especially if it is repeated.



We all have certain limits. We are tired of inconsistencies and awkward silences, of eternal troubles and constant tension when we come home. At home, we want peace and relaxation, because this place should bring us all the best.



If your partner is constantly offended in response to your resentment, you should think about Does she or he manipulate you?. Having done something unpleasant to you, the partner does not want to apologize and take the blame. Instead of talking, he prefers to attack first and make you apologize.



Of course, this behavior is toxic and creates unhealthy relationship patterns. It's usually inherent. infantilePeople who are afraid to take responsibility for their actions.

What do you do when you become part of that relationship? It all depends on your level of comfort. If you’re willing to wait patiently for your partner to grow up, then it’s okay. But if you can not live quietly when a loved one is constantly doing this, it is better to talk directly to him about it.