What to learn from the parents of the old age

The role of parents in the upbringing of children It's huge, and it's stupid to deny it. Millions of moms and dads are trying to give their children the best to grow up worthy people. It is all the more insulting to hear the attacks of modern psychologists and diverse gurus who believe that Soviet education was bad.

They say that the usual methods of upbringing of that time were harmful and toxic, which only traumatized the children. Especially criticized parentalThey were heard in almost every home. But was it that bad? Or are modern connoisseurs just making up nonsense?



Soviet mothers and fathers are extremely busy people, and therefore there was often not enough time, then mood, then strength to hang out with a child. The difficult life of parents left an imprint on both family life and upbringing. Therefore, the phrases uttered in the address of the child were often template and quite rigid.



Offensive parental phrases

1. "Because..."
   “Because I said so,” is a common phrase used by parents to push a child away. But they have to stop, drop everything and explain it in easy words. At least that’s what modern gurus think.
   
   
   
   But what if you have multiple children? Continuously running after everyone and explain everything, talk, answer even frankly stupid questions? Do you want your child to distract you whenever he wants? Perhaps your refusal will make him think for himself?
   
   And why can’t a parent forbid something to a child at their own discretion? He is responsible for the welfare and safety of his blood, has a lot of responsibilities to her. But with duties, rights are given.
   
   
   
   
   
   
2. "Boring"? Go clean the room.
   Today it is believed that parents are obliged to spend more time with the child. If your child is bored, start playing with him immediately. But asking him to do something as boring as cleaning is a real insult. In fact, the child is bored more often because he is tired of entertainment. And for modern children, this is a serious problem. It is solved very simply - you give the child any easy physical work without the ability to use gadgets, and boredom soon disappears like smoke.
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. "Don't cry!"
   Of course, it is difficult to stop crying under such an order, but it is unlikely that such a phrase can break someone’s life. As the saying goes, a creature whose life can be broken by words would never survive evolution. Psychologists advise showing an upset child their understanding. But if the child is worried because of frank nonsense, then sincere sympathize with him will not work. And phrases like “Oh, I understand you and your feelings, but ...” will probably soon annoy the child and the boring chirping of the parent he will completely cease to perceive.
   
   
   
   
   
   

Of course. parenting This is a responsible process, but here you should not overdo it. Raising your own child according to the precepts of some unfamiliar psychologist is such an experiment.

Perhaps today’s children are really harmed by excessive squeezing and an abundance of entertainment. Where are the responsibilities? Or should they only be with their mother and father?