What 40-Year-Old Losers Cry About When They Cry

Man's successLike women, the concept is quite subjective. People think differently in different cultures and countries. For some, it is a financial success. Others believe that success lies within a person and is actually a psychological and spiritual balance. There is a third and a fourth opinion.



Let’s look at a few situations and perhaps come to some common opinion on this. This is a very simple and very important question, having solved which, a huge number of people will breathe a sigh of relief, because they will have a real purpose in life. And someone can only be upset, realizing that somewhere just turned the wrong way.

Here lived a man and lived, did not offend anyone. He came back from the army, went to work. He met one girl, the other, and eventually found the one. After a short courtship, both realized they had fallen in love. What do we do? Marry, of course! Well, then everything is clear: children, education, school. Isn't that a success?



But it turned out that our man almost gave himself to the family: he spent all his free time with his wife and children, raised and became the best friend of his offspring. He was always at home and a perfect family man. It all ended up being his wife. leftAfter all, she just got tired of her husband, all his life she knew up to a minute. His children. disrespectBecause Dad's become a kind of friend. And working with such a relationship, our man could not advance: there was no business acumen.

And here is another story, hypothetical, but nevertheless, not at all fantastic in our realities. Another man decided for himself as a boy that love and emotions are not about him. It's for the weak. So he did his best in school. Making the necessary acquaintances to raise the business. Cunning and cheating. This bore fruit, and now, as an adult, he realized that in principle he could buy anything he wanted.



I did not want to buy a woman, because it is impossible to buy a good attitude towards yourself (genuinely good). It so happened that over the years he met one person who suited him: smart, beautiful, also quite successful financially. So he started offering her a relationship. No one has. His crystal lock began to collapse, because the habit of getting what you want is especially dangerous and can lead to terrible consequences.



After some time, our hero, against the background of mental suffering, became acquainted with other bad habits and became weaker. His “business partners” had been waiting for this for a long time, and our man’s business quickly went downhill. Money became less and less, as did energy. But complexes and habit They were just accumulating. The end was sad and obvious. Thank God it was made up from the beginning to the end, otherwise this story would have been truly sad.

There's nothing to talk about. A lot of men, especially young men, are doing this. They think that they will find their happiness not in the quality of relationships, but in their number. Interestingly, with the development of automation, people no longer need to work as hard as before. Therefore, now older men do not mind to meet a woman for one night. But we are not here to judge, but to consider different situations.



In general, everything ends the same: for a large number of women who are interested only in receiving various gifts and having fun, you need funds. And if you spend all your time and thoughts on women, you won't make much money. Not to mention some kind of warmth. It's a vicious circle. This is especially true if such a man is already married. Infidelity and quarrels, lying... In short, we condemn.

So what do we do? Our answer is self-actualization. This is not about a huge salary, although the realized man in most cases is financially successful. Also, the fact that a man is passionate about something will allow his family to live a normal life. And from the constant running for someone else's skirt, it will also protect, believe me. It seems that this option, at least, better All of the above.



After all, as the group Spleen sings: “Well, thank God, not Ricky, not Martin, not nominated for the Oscar, the French did not score.” My name is not the city on the map, but the curtains are closed and the sofa is laid out. You do not need to desire something beyond measure, the main thing is to feel good in your business. Everything else will come!