When friendliness can turn against you

How often do you miss someone out of line or go to a restaurant you can’t afford because you’re afraid to say no? It is impossible to be good for everyone – someone will be unhappy. And most often, this “someone” is a person who compromises his principles. The website will explain the dangers of excessive courtesy and When friendliness can turn against you.



When friendliness can turn against you, too friendly people have a bad habit of pleasing everyone. Of course, being a good person is great. But in everything you need to know the measure. Otherwise, you risk becoming a “rag” without your principles and personal opinion.

We treat others well because we want to be treated well. This is very noble, although a little selfish. But such a good character trait as friendliness can turn into a problem. If you always agree with everyone, no one will take you seriously. We do not notice what we want for ourselves because we place too much importance on the desires of others.



Also, when you can’t say no, you settle for things you don’t have time for. Or you take someone else’s opinion with which you disagree. People believe they get better by pleasing others. But they do it at their own expense.



Most people are annoyed by this behavior. According to the research of psychologists, people are equally annoyed with both selfishness and excessive “rightness”. Too good and right people make others feel guilty. The desire to please everyone can turn people against you and create excess potential in a relationship.

Too friendly people try to avoid problems. This indicates their indecision and insecurity. It is easier to agree or remain silent than to speak and defend your opinion. The habit of hiding negative emotions can play a cruel joke with you at once. Agreeing with everything, you suppress yourself and risk breaking down at once.



People who firmly insist on their own are more likely to succeed. They know exactly what they want, and they are willing to go for it no matter what. First of all, you have to respect yourself and then everyone else. They are not afraid to be worse than others. They just do what they want. This does not mean that these people are unfriendly.

How do you get more confident? Because of politeness, we often agree with strangers. No one wants to argue over trifles on the street or on the street. It happens that strangers impose their point of view on everyone around. They are looking for people to support them in the crowd. We recommend in such cases to stick to your opinion and use such situations to practice communication.



We also advise you to choose your words more carefully. Sometimes people say, “Of course!” No problem! As you wish! Or when very politely asked about something: “I apologize, can I?” Do not please others and especially apologize for nothing. Pay close attention to what you say, otherwise you may seem insecure and pliable person.



On the other hand, it is worth remembering that in fact everyone thinks about themselves first. Everyone has their own problems and worries and nobody cares if you refuse to go to a party. Don't worry about trifles. Take care of yourself and think about what you really need. Be polite, but not at the expense of yourself and your principles.