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When the future mother-in-law is not happy with the wedding of his son
“Vana and I have been living together for over three years, and he finally decided to propose to me! All the relatives are very happy for us. The only one who still ignores this event is my future mother-in-law, said 23-year-old Hope.
“I really don't understand what this is about! My relationship with her was quite warm before. All this time lived under one roof and no conflict, and then the mother-in-law seemed to be replaced.
Many girls face similar problems before their wedding.
Editorial "Site" proposes to find out together the reason for the sharp change in the attitude of the future mother-in-law to the chosen son and learn how to settle the brewing conflict.
The future mother-in-law “It all started from the day we filed a statement in the registry office.” I knew that my future mother-in-law was a pretty pedantic woman, and I didn’t expect her to react too violently. But the fact that she would just pretend that nothing is happening and not even drop a brief “Congratulations”, I could not even think.
“I am very offended by her behaviour. One way or another, the spouse will have to live with the family for about a year after the wedding, so that it is possible to apply for a mortgage on our own house. I don’t want to be in a tense situation all this time.”
“But how to get along with my mother-in-law, who pretends that I don’t exist, I don’t understand,” Nadia said.
Editorial Board for Every Girl wedding - a special holiday. And, of course, I want close people to share with you the joy and feelings about this. Everyone would like to hear congratulations and feel support from relatives. Anyone would be upset if that didn’t happen.
But do not hide grievances and keep silent about their experiences. In such a situation, it is worth trying to understand the position of the future mother-in-law, because in the future your lives will be closely connected and it depends only on you what character this relationship will carry.
A girl who finds herself in such a situation should look at everything through the eyes of her mother-in-law. And then think about how their opinions on the main issues of everyday life can differ.
Perhaps the mother-in-law initially did not want his son to bring the girl into the house and live with her under his father’s roof for such a long period of time. Maybe she doubts that you are going to move in the future, and fears that she will not be able to enjoy the pleasures of living independently in the most important years.
Housing issue One of the most popular causes of family conflicts.
In such cases, it is necessary to clearly state your position. As well as agree in advance on the conditions of living together to make it comfortable for everyone.
It is clear that the future mother-in-law will not be happy with the news about the marriage of his son, if this event portends personalization And her comfort zone.
Therefore, it is very important to analyze the situation, studying it in detail from all sides, and not based only on personal guesses.
Or maybe it's quite different. It is likely that the future mother-in-law is simply afraid of losing touch with her son, since now she is not the only significant woman in his life.
That's it. motherhood It reflects her sadness and inner feelings. So it's worth helping her deal with them instead of taking the victim's position and taking offense.
Simple. soul-talk It can help you better than anything.
Having expressed personal anxieties and sympathizing with the experiences of her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law will have the opportunity not only to improve their relationship, but also to enlist the support of an influential ally for many years to come.
Do you think it is possible to resolve the conflict with the mother-in-law with the help of ordinary dialogue? It would be interesting to hear your opinion on this in the comments. So we look forward to them.
In the meantime, we say goodbye and wish you a good day. See you soon!
“I really don't understand what this is about! My relationship with her was quite warm before. All this time lived under one roof and no conflict, and then the mother-in-law seemed to be replaced.
Many girls face similar problems before their wedding.
Editorial "Site" proposes to find out together the reason for the sharp change in the attitude of the future mother-in-law to the chosen son and learn how to settle the brewing conflict.
The future mother-in-law “It all started from the day we filed a statement in the registry office.” I knew that my future mother-in-law was a pretty pedantic woman, and I didn’t expect her to react too violently. But the fact that she would just pretend that nothing is happening and not even drop a brief “Congratulations”, I could not even think.
“I am very offended by her behaviour. One way or another, the spouse will have to live with the family for about a year after the wedding, so that it is possible to apply for a mortgage on our own house. I don’t want to be in a tense situation all this time.”
“But how to get along with my mother-in-law, who pretends that I don’t exist, I don’t understand,” Nadia said.
Editorial Board for Every Girl wedding - a special holiday. And, of course, I want close people to share with you the joy and feelings about this. Everyone would like to hear congratulations and feel support from relatives. Anyone would be upset if that didn’t happen.
But do not hide grievances and keep silent about their experiences. In such a situation, it is worth trying to understand the position of the future mother-in-law, because in the future your lives will be closely connected and it depends only on you what character this relationship will carry.
A girl who finds herself in such a situation should look at everything through the eyes of her mother-in-law. And then think about how their opinions on the main issues of everyday life can differ.
Perhaps the mother-in-law initially did not want his son to bring the girl into the house and live with her under his father’s roof for such a long period of time. Maybe she doubts that you are going to move in the future, and fears that she will not be able to enjoy the pleasures of living independently in the most important years.
Housing issue One of the most popular causes of family conflicts.
In such cases, it is necessary to clearly state your position. As well as agree in advance on the conditions of living together to make it comfortable for everyone.
It is clear that the future mother-in-law will not be happy with the news about the marriage of his son, if this event portends personalization And her comfort zone.
Therefore, it is very important to analyze the situation, studying it in detail from all sides, and not based only on personal guesses.
Or maybe it's quite different. It is likely that the future mother-in-law is simply afraid of losing touch with her son, since now she is not the only significant woman in his life.
That's it. motherhood It reflects her sadness and inner feelings. So it's worth helping her deal with them instead of taking the victim's position and taking offense.
Simple. soul-talk It can help you better than anything.
Having expressed personal anxieties and sympathizing with the experiences of her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law will have the opportunity not only to improve their relationship, but also to enlist the support of an influential ally for many years to come.
Do you think it is possible to resolve the conflict with the mother-in-law with the help of ordinary dialogue? It would be interesting to hear your opinion on this in the comments. So we look forward to them.
In the meantime, we say goodbye and wish you a good day. See you soon!