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How to Get Rid of Suspended Guests and Dissuade Them From Staying Overnight
Healthy human relationships are, as it turns out, quite fragile and complex. Even the arrival of old friends in your house can turn not into ordinary evening gatherings, but into the present. guest serviceWhere the hosts turn into meek servants, and the guests into spoiled children.
It is very important in the case of receiving guests to stay yourself and adhere to at least basic etiquette. Of course, the expression “My home is my fortress” is true. But, of course, it is not worth losing yourself. So how do you keep the balance between the host and the guests, especially if they want to spend the night?
So, noisy gatherings or usual hangouts until the night, behind a computer monitor or a TV screen is great. It's fun, it's fervent and it's very interesting. when you're 19.. You can sleep for a couple of hours, in the morning you do not need to go to work, and if necessary, the body will be ready and fully “reboot”, as soon as you close your eyes.
At this age, you have a lot of acquaintances, and anyone who meets you will seem like your best friend if you happen to have the same tastes in music or cinema. Let someone stay in your dormitory or apartment is not a problem at all: together more fun, and valuable things have not yet gained.
Another thing is if a couple lives in an apartment, for example, students. And together they build life and comfort. In this case, hanging out with friends sharply fade into the background, and late acquaintances in most cases go home by taxi or alternative means of transport.
Only sometimes you can shelter someone in the middle of the night to spend the night in the next room. Often it can be either a “walking” mutual friend, whom everyone feels sorry for in their own way, or a friend of the hostess. A classic situation - a friend came to visit to cry in the vest because of unrequited love. Well, why? We're all psychologists at heart.
Growing up and settled, getting used to a loved one and having a real family, you begin to understand that the most important thing is the weather in the house. But some guests are very actively spoiling this weather, in most cases unconsciously.
For example, if there is some reason to get together, why not go to a cafe or a restaurant? Financially, it may not be so profitable. However, the time for cleaning, washing dishes and everything else will take much less. And time is money.
Some people like to arrange feasts in the home environment, they say, all their own, there is nothing to be ashamed of. And when else will you be able to see your new furniture and widescreen TV? It does not matter that everything has already been “viewed” 2 weeks ago, and the cat from the last visit can not move away from the harmless “games” with visitors.
But the cherry on the cake is a fairly familiar request (actually a requirement) stay up. Why not? It does not matter what in the apartment and the owners themselves, as they say, do not die. It does not matter that even banal sleeping clothes so much, and tomorrow early to get up, even if not to work, but on weekends, ordinary people are busy. The main thing is to serve the guests.
Newcomer hosts often give up and let relatives or friends stay. What would people think? What, are we already? And so on down the list. But this will be a very serious mistake, correcting which is not as easy as it may seem at first glance.
What do you do? In fact, the owners have 4 options for the development of events. From the most innocuous to frank conversation.
To be honest, we would advise you to always start with the last option. This will save time and nerves, although you may not be too diplomatic master. Everyone’s approach to people is different and we believe you can decide what policy you want your guests to follow.
The main thing is that these are good, reliable people who would see in you not only a source of free fun and festive pastime.
It is very important in the case of receiving guests to stay yourself and adhere to at least basic etiquette. Of course, the expression “My home is my fortress” is true. But, of course, it is not worth losing yourself. So how do you keep the balance between the host and the guests, especially if they want to spend the night?
So, noisy gatherings or usual hangouts until the night, behind a computer monitor or a TV screen is great. It's fun, it's fervent and it's very interesting. when you're 19.. You can sleep for a couple of hours, in the morning you do not need to go to work, and if necessary, the body will be ready and fully “reboot”, as soon as you close your eyes.
At this age, you have a lot of acquaintances, and anyone who meets you will seem like your best friend if you happen to have the same tastes in music or cinema. Let someone stay in your dormitory or apartment is not a problem at all: together more fun, and valuable things have not yet gained.
Another thing is if a couple lives in an apartment, for example, students. And together they build life and comfort. In this case, hanging out with friends sharply fade into the background, and late acquaintances in most cases go home by taxi or alternative means of transport.
Only sometimes you can shelter someone in the middle of the night to spend the night in the next room. Often it can be either a “walking” mutual friend, whom everyone feels sorry for in their own way, or a friend of the hostess. A classic situation - a friend came to visit to cry in the vest because of unrequited love. Well, why? We're all psychologists at heart.
Growing up and settled, getting used to a loved one and having a real family, you begin to understand that the most important thing is the weather in the house. But some guests are very actively spoiling this weather, in most cases unconsciously.
For example, if there is some reason to get together, why not go to a cafe or a restaurant? Financially, it may not be so profitable. However, the time for cleaning, washing dishes and everything else will take much less. And time is money.
Some people like to arrange feasts in the home environment, they say, all their own, there is nothing to be ashamed of. And when else will you be able to see your new furniture and widescreen TV? It does not matter that everything has already been “viewed” 2 weeks ago, and the cat from the last visit can not move away from the harmless “games” with visitors.
But the cherry on the cake is a fairly familiar request (actually a requirement) stay up. Why not? It does not matter what in the apartment and the owners themselves, as they say, do not die. It does not matter that even banal sleeping clothes so much, and tomorrow early to get up, even if not to work, but on weekends, ordinary people are busy. The main thing is to serve the guests.
Newcomer hosts often give up and let relatives or friends stay. What would people think? What, are we already? And so on down the list. But this will be a very serious mistake, correcting which is not as easy as it may seem at first glance.
What do you do? In fact, the owners have 4 options for the development of events. From the most innocuous to frank conversation.
- 1. You can subtly hint, they say, it's late, tomorrow early to get up, everyone is tired. It happens that friends just a long time ago, as they say, “did not go out into the world” and simply did not notice how time flew by.
- 2nd option. Not entirely true, but sometimes nothing else remains. Saying that you're not feeling well or that you need to do sudden work and so on. Without your personal involvement as host, the party will quickly fade.
- 3rd. It'll be harder. We just need to say, that’s it, the gathering has come to an end, come on, help, dear guests. And invite the visitors to wash the dishes and clean the room. In this case, 90% of guests wash their cup to the maximum and run to the corridor to wear shoes. It's a proven option.
- 4. Everyone's afraid of him for some reason. We are tired, please go home. It's late, we want to be at home alone.” Normal people will understand everything, and inadequate, who only have fun on their minds, can be offended as much as they want and go on all four sides.
To be honest, we would advise you to always start with the last option. This will save time and nerves, although you may not be too diplomatic master. Everyone’s approach to people is different and we believe you can decide what policy you want your guests to follow.
The main thing is that these are good, reliable people who would see in you not only a source of free fun and festive pastime.
