What to do if the test shows two stripes, and the man goes back

A woman's life is turned upside down when doctors deliver a verdict: "You can't get pregnant." This phrase is imprinted on the mind and remains there forever. But sometimes a miracle happens, and the long-awaited two stripes of dreams turn into reality. Only here's what to do if man does not want children?



© Freepik The heroine of today's story turned to the editorial office for help. She doesn’t know what to do or how to connect with her loved one. In this article, we will try to find out why a man can be so categorical. I think everything has to have a reasonable explanation!

The man doesn't want children. It was a routine routine checkup. Afterwards, my doctor said I wouldn’t be able to have children. My boyfriend and I had been dating for six months. Zhenya was shocked when he found out, but quickly pulled himself together and was very supportive. Soon we decided to move in and started living together.



© Freepik And six months later I found out that I was pregnant. My doctor told me there were such cases. But to be honest, I didn’t believe this could happen to me. Of course, I was very happy because I knew that this might be my only chance to become a mother. And I really wanted that.

But Zhenya wasn't so excited. In fact, at first he hinted at me to get rid of the baby before it was too late. Said he wasn't ready for that. Of course I was against it. And then he thought it over and said he'd try to come to terms with it and accept it over time.



© Freepik However, it only got worse every week. We fight all the time, and I am often alone. I feel lonely and afraid that Zhenya will leave. How to establish contact with a young person? We're not even married. When I think of myself as a single mother at 25, I start to shiver.

To try to establish contact with a man, you need to understand the reason for his behavior. The first thing that lies on the surface, surprise. After a diagnosis, a man may find it difficult to believe that his companion was able to get pregnant. Of course, he is not ready to become an unplanned father.



© Freepik A man also has feelings and fears. And Eugene immediately admitted that the role of the pope is alien to him and he does not want a child. Or rather, he may want to, but not so spontaneously and unconditionally. It is clear that sooner or later some kind of defensive reaction should have been activated. Perhaps his behavior and, to some extent, his indifference reflect the fear of a man.

In addition, a man may have a fear that after the birth of a child it will become unnecessary. New mothers often devote all their time to the baby, and this is normal. But the partner can take it to his own account. As a result, there are resentments and conflicts that can even lead to separation.



To prevent all this from happening, it is worth talking to the man again and trying to understand him. He also needs to listen to his wife. After all, Eugene initially said that he would try to come to terms with the situation. However, accepting a child and loving him are not equal things.

There are fears within each of us. They may not appear until something appears that stirs our consciousness. For Eugene, this “something” was the news of his girlfriend’s pregnancy. And for her, thoughts about the future of single motherhood. But why is it eating her so much?



Society insists that all children should grow up in a full family. But a single mother is not a sentence! Moreover, having parted with her companion, a woman does not condemn herself to eternal lonely life. And the baby could have a stepfather. And how many stories are there when a mother raised a child alone, fully realizing herself in life?



With your fears you need to work, not be afraid of them. Someone copes with this on their own, and someone has to seek help from a specialist. And that's okay! Who knows, perhaps a few sessions with a family psychologist would help the main character and her companion to understand their problems. What do you say?