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Like deformed femininity
How much of his time to counseling young, beautiful, educated, working women who for some strange (at first glance) reasons cannot create a family, or created, but there is experiencing serious difficulties and discomfort that sooner or later leads to divorce and loneliness.
As usual, the reasons lie in childhood, but rather a style of parenting girls. It's also about gender differences in education. What's going to happen with the girl, in the future, she became unhappy in the marriage and a relationship with a man? No matter how corny it sounds, there should be a deformity, or trauma of the feminine in the girl. What do I need and where can it happen?
First, in the family. You must have a mother, deformed, injured pattern of behavior that the girl learns as a result of natural identification and imitation mother. Mental injuries due to the experienced physical and psychological violence, humiliation and insults.
Secondly, in society. Getting girls into the system of children's and educational institutions: kindergarten-school-Institute. Than at an earlier age gets there the girl is, the more serious the deformity she can get, because education in our society is built on male principles. Its main principle is to achieve a result, competition. And the girl, if he wants to be loved and respected, forced this man's principle to match. That is, the girl is forced to actively develop the masculine qualities of character. Then, a woman in the future will be difficult to build a harmonious relationship with a man, create family, birth of children, as the landmarks at the woman change. Deformation occurs. The main business, career, "self-realization" (of male type). As partners these women (according to the law of complementarity) are searched (attract) weak, dependent, not developed as men individuals who have dominated the women's quality.
What character qualities and properties that can be attributed to men?
It is the ability to give, give, care, control, possession, protection, financial security, competition, service, rage, vector, determination, desire to win and achievements, courage, activity, ability to overcome, the transformation of the external world, the spirit.
What qualities and properties are a female?
This acceptance, let in the space, calm, confidence, patience, ability to wait, the pleasure, the ability to attract, magnetism, physical ease, the ability to accumulate, access to the ordinances of the world, inner knowledge, intuition, the soul.
It is possible to independently perform diagnostics to identify the strain of feminine qualities (their substitution for the male). Qualities such as giving and service are universal and manifest in full, when man and woman come into the role of mother and father.
Femininity can be of three types: domestic, wild and traumatized.
1. Home: tenderness, gentleness, love, acceptance, giving, sensitivity, kindness, modesty, service to loved ones, patience, ability to concede, flexibility, courtesy. These are also the qualities which are most valuable for men and are necessary for a happy family life.
2. Wild: podlinnosti, love of self, the ability to say no, sincerity, openness, protecting yourself (personal boundaries), knowledge of their needs, righteous anger, intuition, the ability to talk about their desires and standards, self-respect, inner strength, trust in God. This is an important quality for most women who enable it to exist comfortably in this world, to claim their rights.
3. Injured (if you find yourself at more than 3 x the following qualities, then work with a psychologist is required): anxiety, hysteria, desire to control everything, apathy, distrust the world and God, doubt, inferiority, the availability of sex, "I'll do it, just like" the helplessness, the inability to take, "feel", "give more than you get" "don't know what I want", "all by myself", fear of the future. These qualities are not useful for anybody (except for Nizamuddin wanting a woman to atklatiba), and very harmful to women, bring a lot of suffering in the family and personal life. Formed as a result of mental or physical abuse of a girl (woman), or adopted the girl from her injured mother.
Author: Natalia Nilova
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/nilova/
As usual, the reasons lie in childhood, but rather a style of parenting girls. It's also about gender differences in education. What's going to happen with the girl, in the future, she became unhappy in the marriage and a relationship with a man? No matter how corny it sounds, there should be a deformity, or trauma of the feminine in the girl. What do I need and where can it happen?
First, in the family. You must have a mother, deformed, injured pattern of behavior that the girl learns as a result of natural identification and imitation mother. Mental injuries due to the experienced physical and psychological violence, humiliation and insults.
Secondly, in society. Getting girls into the system of children's and educational institutions: kindergarten-school-Institute. Than at an earlier age gets there the girl is, the more serious the deformity she can get, because education in our society is built on male principles. Its main principle is to achieve a result, competition. And the girl, if he wants to be loved and respected, forced this man's principle to match. That is, the girl is forced to actively develop the masculine qualities of character. Then, a woman in the future will be difficult to build a harmonious relationship with a man, create family, birth of children, as the landmarks at the woman change. Deformation occurs. The main business, career, "self-realization" (of male type). As partners these women (according to the law of complementarity) are searched (attract) weak, dependent, not developed as men individuals who have dominated the women's quality.
What character qualities and properties that can be attributed to men?
It is the ability to give, give, care, control, possession, protection, financial security, competition, service, rage, vector, determination, desire to win and achievements, courage, activity, ability to overcome, the transformation of the external world, the spirit.
What qualities and properties are a female?
This acceptance, let in the space, calm, confidence, patience, ability to wait, the pleasure, the ability to attract, magnetism, physical ease, the ability to accumulate, access to the ordinances of the world, inner knowledge, intuition, the soul.
It is possible to independently perform diagnostics to identify the strain of feminine qualities (their substitution for the male). Qualities such as giving and service are universal and manifest in full, when man and woman come into the role of mother and father.
Femininity can be of three types: domestic, wild and traumatized.
1. Home: tenderness, gentleness, love, acceptance, giving, sensitivity, kindness, modesty, service to loved ones, patience, ability to concede, flexibility, courtesy. These are also the qualities which are most valuable for men and are necessary for a happy family life.
2. Wild: podlinnosti, love of self, the ability to say no, sincerity, openness, protecting yourself (personal boundaries), knowledge of their needs, righteous anger, intuition, the ability to talk about their desires and standards, self-respect, inner strength, trust in God. This is an important quality for most women who enable it to exist comfortably in this world, to claim their rights.
3. Injured (if you find yourself at more than 3 x the following qualities, then work with a psychologist is required): anxiety, hysteria, desire to control everything, apathy, distrust the world and God, doubt, inferiority, the availability of sex, "I'll do it, just like" the helplessness, the inability to take, "feel", "give more than you get" "don't know what I want", "all by myself", fear of the future. These qualities are not useful for anybody (except for Nizamuddin wanting a woman to atklatiba), and very harmful to women, bring a lot of suffering in the family and personal life. Formed as a result of mental or physical abuse of a girl (woman), or adopted the girl from her injured mother.
Author: Natalia Nilova
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/nilova/
