Helen Fisher: to Be alone and "not look"... Bashny.Net

Each person can seek his happiness where he wants.

 

In our time a single woman is perceived with suspicion in many cultures. Not so long ago was the situation in China, where women not married before 25 years, called the "female leftovers".

In other countries do not reach such extremes, but almost equally negative attitude to women who are not eager to marry anybody, just to marry, but choose the loneliness.

Helen Fisher is an American anthropologist known for his research on romantic relationships and the role of women in the culture.

In his book "the First floor" it is with great respect writes about women who don't feel obliged to necessarily get married, but are committed to their personal achievements in society.





 

We offer you to think it over.

To be alone in a very Patriarchal societies and families are very matriarchal

Strange situation... In our time there is a very Patriarchal society (for example, in China, India...) where she should look for a suitable groom under pressure from his father, the family had a certain social status.

At the same time, in other countries the same pressure for the girl comes from the mother, who wants "the addition to the family" and the birth of an heir.

A woman who wants grandchildren and wants her daughter "life is good" (she was married to well-earning husband), is a traditional images, which is quite normal in our time.

But as far as life in our time, these images and behaviors?..





Couples who break up and arise

Many people understand that to meet someone with whom you can live your whole life not so easy. Relationships emerge, evolve, change, often stop, we meet another person...

• We can be happy with your partner, but then the relationship with him for some reason come to an end, and we can then make a choice in favor of the loneliness and be happy.
  
  
• In fact, and in another case life can be full and rich, if our immediate environment relates to our choice with respect and not subjected to derogatory criticism.
  
  
• Personal freedom is a value which, unfortunately, is missing in many cultures, and we regularly read that in such countries, girls are actually bought and sold as a product.
  
  
• A woman — not a commodity, and it should not be considered as being defective, if separated from her husband.
  
  

We all complete, we can move forward and grow as a person and gradually in our mirror reflects that which we want to be. With a partner or without him.

To be alone and "not to look"

Even in the most "advanced" societies, many believe that a single person, whether male or female, almost don't find their "soul mate".

• It is clear that each person can do what he wants to, "seek", but can also not do that, and to let life take its course.
  
  
• He may be content with what he is happy to enjoy the friendship, social relations with people close to him, his family, his work. He sees no need to "search" someone, try someone will like it, because it violates the natural course of life.
  
  
• This inner balance and serenity can give the feeling of fullness of life and happiness.
  
  

This approach to life, it is possible to build a more Mature relationship, where both partners feel free and self-sufficient; they have no fears or sense of emptiness that must fill in the other person.





A woman in our time

Go back to the ideas of Helen Fisher. In his book "the First Paul" the researcher to some extent argues with Simone de Beauvoir, who wrote the famous book "the Second sex".

• In it she develops a number of ideas that encouraged women to believe in their ability to be a leader.
  
  
• Helen Fisher proves that due to the peculiarities of the brain of women they have better developed intuition and empathy, and it helps them not only in personal relationships but also in work.
  
  

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• Woman should have the opportunity to find happiness in the form in which it wants — with a partner or without a partner, in a large family with or without children, interesting work, or Vice versa, in simple work, which gives her a sense of calm.
  
  

It is not necessary to argue, "we belong to the first floor or not." It is important to be individuals who respect each other, and to build a more free society, with equal opportunities for all.published

 

 



Source: steptohealth.ru/ne-zhdu-ne-ishhu-mne-dostatochno-byt-schastlivoj/