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What to do with the past
I have often asked what it means to live in the present. And this is what prompted to write this short article.
Remember that"neurotics live either in the past or in the future, a healthy person lives in the present". I believe this phrase many have heard or read, but not everyone understands how it is to live in the present, then what to do with the past? Or how you can live without thinking about the future?
Of course, everyone has a past, and thanks to him, the man gets the experience that allows you to avoid mistakes in the future.
©Dariusz Klimczak
And, of course, every responsible man thinking about his future plans. Without it man would not have been able to achieve in his life. And the future would have caused him fear.
But people live there, where are his emotions, feelings. That is, he lives where events are the most vivid emotions.
If most emotions are caused by memories of certain events in the past, it means that the person is not moved, he still lives in that period and lives again and again what happened to him many years ago. No matter was it good or terrible events. Importantly, living the past as present, he deprives himself of just that is good in his life right now, and not once was. And then it turns a kind of "escape" from the present, not adopting it, which consequently complicates relationships with others and family, often leads to depression, disease care. Man believes that no one realizes he's alone in this world.
To live in the past is the same as the first, just pull a unnecessary stuff, and later it will accumulate so much that people in it just "sinks", not seeing all this "garbage" of the present. And every time he meets people in something like the people from those events in which he "lives" or gets himself into a situation like that, the situation, or faced with people who were in the same situation, he is experiencing the same emotions, feelings that were in his own past, he returns to the past situation and re-live it and feel.
And since he only lives in his past, he even unconsciously is looking for people or situations that would "trigger" that allows him to rush back into your past and relive it. In fact, his whole life comes down to the events of the past. People who find themselves in similar situations, but reacts to the situation not as a man living in his past, quite often it cause resentment.
If people live their dreams that all the time planning something, is to some extent optimistic goals and that this process receives the highest emotions, lives all this as happening in the moment, he is living the future. And he likewise runs away from the present, misses what is in it real good, can't accept her reality.
And because he lives by the very process of planning for the future, dreams of the happy future, thoughts about his future achievements etc, then when comes the moment of achievement of a goal or a desired meeting, he had dreamed of, etc., he does not feel such strong emotions when it happens in his real life, he had much more vivid emotions, thinking and dreaming about how and when it happens.
So that would be in his life not happened, but what he has achieved, he always remains dissatisfied, demanding of himself, he lacks something, he always feels not good enough, and their achievements, believing that he can and must do better, etc, Often feels misunderstood, not accepted.
As you can see, in both cases the person remains dissatisfied with his present, he does not notice not only what could happen to him is good, but not even notice what is happening with him is good, do not feel what is happening from these emotions, like memories or dreams, planning for the future.
It is like a blind man who does not see that there are people who love, appreciate, does not want to see their luck or possibilities to change something, to improve their lives and thoughts remains all the time in the events which are actually already there, as they were in the past or not yet, as they only planned for the future.
Thus avoiding their reality, the person tries to remove responsibility from himself for his life, because he himself with his own hands had done to his life. But the present is the handiwork of man, and not someone from the past or someone from the future, who will come and save from all the problem of the present.
This will never happen, because to change your life can only be man himself. Therefore, in order to change something in your life, you first need to take responsibility for their actions, their consequences, their feelings, thoughts, which are also a kind of actions. And accept that if you live in the past, it is not the past, holds you, and you keep him and don't want to let go. published
Author: Natalia Depoy P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: consultante.ucoz.com/publ/samopoznanie/chto_znachit_zhit_v_nastojashhem/4-1-0-68
Remember that"neurotics live either in the past or in the future, a healthy person lives in the present". I believe this phrase many have heard or read, but not everyone understands how it is to live in the present, then what to do with the past? Or how you can live without thinking about the future?
Of course, everyone has a past, and thanks to him, the man gets the experience that allows you to avoid mistakes in the future.
©Dariusz Klimczak
And, of course, every responsible man thinking about his future plans. Without it man would not have been able to achieve in his life. And the future would have caused him fear.
But people live there, where are his emotions, feelings. That is, he lives where events are the most vivid emotions.
If most emotions are caused by memories of certain events in the past, it means that the person is not moved, he still lives in that period and lives again and again what happened to him many years ago. No matter was it good or terrible events. Importantly, living the past as present, he deprives himself of just that is good in his life right now, and not once was. And then it turns a kind of "escape" from the present, not adopting it, which consequently complicates relationships with others and family, often leads to depression, disease care. Man believes that no one realizes he's alone in this world.
To live in the past is the same as the first, just pull a unnecessary stuff, and later it will accumulate so much that people in it just "sinks", not seeing all this "garbage" of the present. And every time he meets people in something like the people from those events in which he "lives" or gets himself into a situation like that, the situation, or faced with people who were in the same situation, he is experiencing the same emotions, feelings that were in his own past, he returns to the past situation and re-live it and feel.
And since he only lives in his past, he even unconsciously is looking for people or situations that would "trigger" that allows him to rush back into your past and relive it. In fact, his whole life comes down to the events of the past. People who find themselves in similar situations, but reacts to the situation not as a man living in his past, quite often it cause resentment.
If people live their dreams that all the time planning something, is to some extent optimistic goals and that this process receives the highest emotions, lives all this as happening in the moment, he is living the future. And he likewise runs away from the present, misses what is in it real good, can't accept her reality.
And because he lives by the very process of planning for the future, dreams of the happy future, thoughts about his future achievements etc, then when comes the moment of achievement of a goal or a desired meeting, he had dreamed of, etc., he does not feel such strong emotions when it happens in his real life, he had much more vivid emotions, thinking and dreaming about how and when it happens.
So that would be in his life not happened, but what he has achieved, he always remains dissatisfied, demanding of himself, he lacks something, he always feels not good enough, and their achievements, believing that he can and must do better, etc, Often feels misunderstood, not accepted.
As you can see, in both cases the person remains dissatisfied with his present, he does not notice not only what could happen to him is good, but not even notice what is happening with him is good, do not feel what is happening from these emotions, like memories or dreams, planning for the future.
It is like a blind man who does not see that there are people who love, appreciate, does not want to see their luck or possibilities to change something, to improve their lives and thoughts remains all the time in the events which are actually already there, as they were in the past or not yet, as they only planned for the future.
Thus avoiding their reality, the person tries to remove responsibility from himself for his life, because he himself with his own hands had done to his life. But the present is the handiwork of man, and not someone from the past or someone from the future, who will come and save from all the problem of the present.
This will never happen, because to change your life can only be man himself. Therefore, in order to change something in your life, you first need to take responsibility for their actions, their consequences, their feelings, thoughts, which are also a kind of actions. And accept that if you live in the past, it is not the past, holds you, and you keep him and don't want to let go. published
Author: Natalia Depoy P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: consultante.ucoz.com/publ/samopoznanie/chto_znachit_zhit_v_nastojashhem/4-1-0-68
