Important advantages of low self-esteem

You have low self-esteem? Congratulations! You are a very good object for realizing the dream... other people. And yet you conveniently to manage and enforce actions needed to meet the ambitions of other people, as well as their enrichment, prosperity and career advancement. You do not have an opinion? Great! You are very easy to impose on someone else.

You have no freedom of choice? Perfect! To impose you the choice of those who with him have already decided. You don't have enough courage to start something new? Not scary. Just clear the way for those who have the courage found a little more. Step aside and let the others realize their dreams and desires. You are too nervous and worried? Don't even know what in this case is more harmful — alcohol and nicotine, or the level of your anxiety?





So convenient to be a spectator in koncertnom the audience when on stage is a star. She screams, leaving behind all fears and doubts and hard work over the acquisition of skills to give you pleasure. You – the audience in the hall. And you, Oh, good, sit yourself on a chair in the pit and enjoy the show. Probably thinking: "it's Cool to be a star! Amaze thousands of people. To have such outfits, dine in fancy restaurants and sell tickets for crazy money." And you think that the star at birth was granted the right to the possession of high self-esteem to eventually become a star. And you didn't.

Do not you think, why high self esteem you? Who needs people with high self-esteem? If she was ever in that you decided to raise? Or do you see the success of others and you justify yourself and your inaction, low self-esteem?

All our problems come from childhood. We did not receive enough love, not appreciated, or maybe there was someone in our lives who influence us destroyed our self-esteem? There is another category of people, those who "the price does not lay down". Let me tell you a little secret. So once they hide their low self-esteem. But it is their personal invention. Which works well.

Do you know that most of the problems that we have, you can handle it? I didn't know that? Only if you want to. At your disposal a whole set of professionals – from fitness coach to stylist with a therapist. Expensive, you say. Then, use the Internet, times you still have to pay. Need answers to questions you can find online. If you choose the right resource and expert.

But seriously, maybe I should try to start to value yourself higher? If you think that you are unhappy and nobody likes you, you should have a little sit, think and remember that there are still people who spoil you these statistics? You will remember that there are those who love you, who care about you that there is someone who sincerely rejoice in your victory. Why not try to surprise them.

Talk about the fact that in America, the younger students in the beginning classes give one magic item, which depicts the most important person in their life. Guess what the object is? Icon? Photo school Director? Portrait of a mother? No? It is a mirror. You are such a gift in the childhood did not give? What's the problem? Give it to yourself now! Don't forget to look into it and look at the most important person in my life. If the image you do not like, you have the opportunity to work on that.

Help him to lose weight, change her hair, freshen the complexion, often spending time in the nature. Make him smile from the pleasant emotions and the funny moments. And if you look a little silly, and it's not a problem. Go and learn some. Read a book, go out with friends for an interesting lecture or listen to it on the Internet. There at the same time you can visit a lot of trainings from renowned professionals on ways to improve its value and may even find a new hobby like.

But before you start trying to improve self-esteem, let's do a little exercise. Close your eyes and find your memory of those moments after which you felt your self-esteem has grown. Remember. I know that those moments were! I have a time associated with performance on the stage in front of an audience of 400 people. The report in English. I have it not perfect. And I did it. Then the conference came and spoke with admiration, that my speech was the best time. It happened because I was not able to hide their emotions during the speech. It has allocated me other speakers.

So, I propose several areas of life, have achieved improvements of which you will be able to put a "pass" and to raise their self-esteem

1.Healthy eating. Try to switch to more healthy foods.

2.Sports exercises. Do them daily, at least 15 minutes. Stretching in bed – not counted. This is not yoga.

3.Your image. Change, but radical at least one item. Men shave all boring beard or change the color of the shirt. Women — new hairstyle and change the make-up style.

4.To acquire new knowledge. Read 3 books. Please do not confuse with the census of wise sayings in social networks. Try to learn how to distinguish the Marques from Castaneda.

5.To learn a new skill or ability. The ability to cook porridge before cooking pilaf or just learning to draw. Although if you learn to be dominated and to know yourself, not too bad.





6.Visit the dentist, or other specialist, the visit which was postponed. The study of disease symptoms on the Internet – not suitable.

7.Find out what year was the abolition of serfdom and how many years to build Noah's Ark.

8.Start to smile. It's not easy. Muscles atrophied and skills lost. But at least try.

9. Get in my closet (in the kitchen, the table, the hallway). The guru level has a balcony. Throw away what had not dared.

10. Now the hard part. Stop thinking about what the world thought of you. Other people have their own problems such as hemorrhoids, indigestion, lack of sex or money. And that worried them more than you.

Give you a period of a month. If you can't finish, you get a result at least one question. You can have your choices of fields to work with. I'm sure it will be little opportunity for big love. And then as will rush! I just know it!

Don't let the chance to others to do what can you do. Or become what you can become. Scary? Me too! Then go along.published

Author: Elena Klimenkova

 

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