It is a useful skill: Stop thinking about someone else's opinion! Bashny.Net

Have you ever heard of psychosomatic medicine, in the direction of psychology and medicine, which studies the relationship between our external (physical) and internal (emotional) condition?

These skin problems like rashes, dryness, allergy in terms of psychosomatic appear because the person has an explicit or latent conflict with the inner world: the rejection itself, a dislike to him, and most importantly, the reliance on the opinions of others

. Believe it or not - you decide, but stop constantly worry what others think of you, it is extremely useful skill

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Greatest Andre Maurois, French writer, biographer of genius, once said: "Do not be guided by public opinion. This is not a lighthouse, and wandering lights. " But you will agree that in practice very difficult to become independent from the opponent's point of view, especially if it belongs to one of close friends.

Every time you think you (look, behave, eat) is not so, like everyone else, remember the following:

1. Many people do not think about you at all.

Maybe in your life it has happened that the school you went crazy on some school students and middle Pechorin or Onegin, and thought that he despises you and fiercely hates? And in fact, the subject of the sighing did not even bother to learn your name and was busy with his own affairs, while you carefully constructed illusion.

We are no longer in school, so you should accept the truth: the majority (let me clarify, most adequate and satisfied with their lives), and people in the head does not come to think of you in a negative light, let alone criticize. Happy people, they are from another universe, it does not matter that interpret and gossip about them, and they, in turn, engendered their views on others. And the rest ... and the others try to cut off, life is too short to spend time on the envious, mentally immature, obsessive people.

2. Everyone has their own path.

Angelina Jolie in an interview admitted that at the beginning of her career, a lot of friends tried it prove that the path that she chose - hopeless, and, according to "well-wishers", it was to be "a second-rate actresses" who captivated Hollywood at the end of last century. But Jolie, gritting his teeth and clenching his beautiful even more beautiful lips, stood his ground. And now, I think, it is not necessary to enumerate all its merits as a movie, and in life.

When you are in doubt about the correctness of the choice, do not neglect completely the opinion of friends and relatives (if you trust them, appreciate and love), but the right to "the last voice," always leave behind. In this case, even after losing, you will not blame anyone but myself.

3. People change their minds.

Mood, thought, philosophy of people throughout life sometimes changes dramatically. Examples weight: Pushkin (of the Decembrists in the moderate conservative), Leo Tolstoy (of nihilist in the religious hermit), J. Swift (repeatedly changed their political views), and many others
Therefore, it is worth remembering that your views can not divide up the first major victory.

Unfortunately, people tend to criticize everything that makes them distrust seem frivolous or too risky. Therefore, less words - more action: the father of Pavel Durov was skeptical of his idea of ​​creating a social network, and Kafka's parents at all was considered "second-rate scribbler»

. But it is worth remembering that any criticism should be answered adequately because people can change their minds later, and your reaction to it will always remain an indicator of your politeness and good manners.

4. Life lasts only a moment.

What we measure, no one knows. Therefore, every time you go on about someone's opinion and do what you really want, you brazenly rob themselves. Another "must" invisible thread ties you to a chair routine, and if you then can not get up? So live a life in the "office - house - office - home - vacation every two years", and again in a circle

? The worst thing - an endless Groundhog Day. But time flies, and in the history of mankind, it has not spared anyone.

5. impossible to please everyone.

After listening to the character A and enrolled in accordance with his wishes, you have acquired an enemy in the face of the character B. to please their softness in, annoyed C. And what's the point to someone to please, if the number of detractors in the best case does not increase? All the like - is not possible, and strive to do a bit silly

. The burden of public opinion - very hard, in fact, similar to the shackles that prevent you to be free and move forward. And only depends on you to submit this car and hang the label number, as in M. Zamyatin in the lovely novel "We", or to be itself, with all faults, and several other features
"format».
Author: Veronica Kolegova