As wives killing their husbands masculinity

In family life is one of the problems, which they say is not accepted. Many women complain that men over the years become less masculine. What he did not care what he's drinking and lying on the sofa. Women even forget that once it themselves chose and loved. For something. And for what - no longer remember. Because it is "something" suddenly somewhere delos ... And maybe not all of a sudden?

Do I need to tame it?

When we meet a man when we are in the moment of the beginning of the relationship, we are very attracted to his male strength and energy. We are proud, if he rides his bike without fear. We are inspired by his victories in fist fights. We excitedly telling friends about how he drives a race in another city, the competition, took first place. And even if there is no clear evidence of power, we are proud of his other qualities.


© Still from the film "American Beauty," Sam Mendes

We like when caring for us a man rigidly designates its position - you do not go back and point! Inside it can even climb an easy revolt, but from men, the hard hitting the table with his fist all calms down inside. Protected. He is strong. He's a real man.

That we are waiting for family life - that he would take responsibility, banging his fist on the table, take a decision itself, will soothe a disturbed mind. We dream of a strong shoulder, oblivious to the fact that in this case we need to give up much in their behavior.

This man, in a sense, very close to nature. He is as indestructible, unbridled, wild. ... And dangerous. The danger of this volcano once again bother to warm up, to provoke, to cut, to suppress ...

When a man marries, his world changes dramatically.
I know many men that marriage has changed dramatically. A friend of mine at the behest of his wife and the love of it - broke with all your friends. There was only a couple of "acceptable" options - which could only drink beer in the country at the weekend. At the same time he disappeared from his life and his passion - hiking, climbing, mountain. It was too dangerous for the father. Therefore, all the equipment was handed out to friends and acquaintances.

Ultimatums were set rigidly "Or I, or is it" more arguments are that you need to grow up, that he should think about the family. And, for the love of his wife, he agreed to everything. He did not want to leave her a widow, did not want to see her tears and emotions. He loved her - and made a choice. Difficult choice.

It became a home, caring father. At the same time deeply unhappy inside. It was evident to many. He tried to realize his male part in the upbringing of his son - his temper, engage him in sports. But it was the wife is prohibited. Motivation - the son is too small

. A few years later his wife left him for another. By crazy stuntman, rides his bike through the city. She spoke about the vanished passion, how much he had changed, that he did not care and are not interested in.

But who did it so?
Who forbade him to be a man in this family? Who blackmail away from him all the things that helped him to be a man?

Now he has recovered - and again the same as before. All just to conquer the peak, descend on a snowboard where no man has gone before. He is full of energy, his eyes light up again. Again he likes women. Only now the family for him - it is something terrible. That again may take away his strength and virility.

That's what often happens. Woman after the wedding, a man tries to domesticate. For your convenience. To not worry about where it is and how. Not to be left a widow. And so it is less attracted to other women. The more it is handmade, the less interesting to others.
"Domesticated" men
Men agree to it. Because they did not see the other examples - many of them grow only mother. Others have grown up with the same domesticated daddy, deprived of its power. They do not understand what the price paid for it, and call it simply - "settle down." And because they love us and want to see us happy.

But the soul knows and remembers everything. And longing for the former power. A man like a lion locked in a cage, will never be house cat. It may be just humiliated and tame lion. Have you ever seen such eyes lion in a zoo or a circus? The same thing is happening in the hearts of men. Hearts, who are deprived of their power.

Do not accidentally, the average age of almost every man is trying to shake off the burden of the family and had a ball? Buy car racing, throw his wife to do something extreme? And if this is not possible, then at least hit computer games, and become a hero there ...

In Europe, most often on racing cars, such as "Ferrari", sitting behind the wheel of his grandfather. And the gas pedal is pressed with great pleasure, too, they are. Remembering that they are still men. They are still strong and dangerous.

It turns out that we want to marry Superman, who conquered our deeds and courage. And to live it is more convenient - I stress the word "convenient" - with home deadhead, which is doing something boring and safe, washing dishes, floor - and no one is uninteresting. Even ourselves. For the convenience to pay respect and their own happiness ...

Men need both strength
Whatever the woman resisted, they secretly dream of her husband to become the same again as before. Wild, strong, wild, dangerous. To come home suddenly, he hugged her so that the breath away. To the moment the quarrel, when it carries, he firmly said his "no", and again - on the table with his fist. To his eyes burned with the fire of passion and power.

Complexity only is that with such a man to become another. It can not tease and provoke, to pour oil on the fire, when he is angry.

Recently I heard the story of how, during a family quarrel husband broke in half laptop wife. This is one of the manifestations of male power - it must be very careful. It is better because the computer than anything else.

Imagine that you are - a chemist at work. You need to know exactly what goes with what can be mixed, and that - in any case. Otherwise, it threatens problems. Each jar you take carefully and think - and what will happen? Do you have some instructions on how to treat jars, how to store them, how to move.

With a man should be exactly the same. The only problem is that this statement we have. And we experimented. One blew up. Other melted. Here crippled. And all would do if we remembered what actions lead to similar results.

For example, do not need a man to anger, when he's not in the spirit. This was known to many. And who does that? Who will first try to appease the expensive and bring it to a good location, and only then to solve the problem? Almost nobody ...

Most often, irritated man receives nourishment reproaches of his wife, her resentment, anger. And there is an explosion! Its power varies from the men, and how much fuel to the fire poured wife. But destruction and victim always have.

Man, inspired by something that does not need to distract and disturb him. Finally, he took a hammer in hand, and intends to hammer a nail. Do not interfere with him - get away. Because your advice "not there" and "wrong" not only bring him out of himself, but also lead to the fact that more than a single nail he does not score.

Men are dangerous?
Men are really dangerous. But when women try to tame them and disarm - they enclose themselves pig. Because of the domestic mattress they no longer want children. For he did not want to cook or to be beautiful. It is rather a pity and contempt, than love and respect.
When a man has a masculine strength, a woman is not easy. She needs to learn to deal with her husband the right to it was safe. She needed more often worry about him. And learn to trust him completely. And to realize that this man is very attractive to other women. Therefore, we must always remain the most-most for him. The most beautiful, most loving, the most tender, the most unpredictable.

This is another choice and another life. Stop control it. Stop checking his phone and not force to come always on time. Do not tell him with whom to communicate and what to do. Do not evaluate his hobby in their degree of danger. Again and again to revive his passion for life.

Yes, even if he decides to start doing triathlons. My husband is in the next year we are going to participate in the IronMan. To me, it sounds scary - a day to run, swim and ride a bike is not. It requires a lot of strength, endurance, time. He needs to train, buy equipment, to participate in marathons. And I have to live with his absence, employment, physical fatigue.

But this is nothing compared to the way his eyes shine when he says it and does something. When he runs ten kilometers or swims a kilometer and a half. This makes it harder - not only physically, but also mentally

. One of the men dreaming of a motorcycle. My husband is one of them. And I prepare mentally to the fact that one day it will happen. I sometimes have to worry about him. And trust more. I know one girl who was very scared, but agreed to buy her husband a motorcycle. When our movement and respect on the road - this is a very extreme
purchase. But after a few years, and the husband of an employee become a successful businessman. His wife, he carries on the machine. And he was still, every night his iron horse saddles. And while they were married for more than ten years, she recently confessed that passion has remained undiminished and is not lost. With this bike has more passion.

Hobbies skiing, racing, mountaineering, sports, travel, exploits, dangerous journeys, extreme exercises, communication with other men, and more, from what we want to protect the men - in fact, gives them strength and courage. Force to be a man close to us. Power take responsibility for themselves. Always and in every situation. Strength and endurance of asceticism. The real virility. That we so value and which is so bored.
John Elridzh about men
And finally, I want to share with you a quote from the book of John Elridzha "Unbridled heart." That inspired me to write this article.

Yes, men are really dangerous. But the scalpel too dangerous. It may hurt, but can save your life. You're not trying to make it safer, it blunted; you put it in the hand of the one who knows how to handle.

him If you've ever watched the horses, then you already know that stallions can deliver a lot of problems. They are strong, very strong, and canny. Stallions do not usually like the reins and may behave very aggressively - especially if there is a mare. Stallion difficult to tame.

If you want a more quiet and not dangerous animal there is a simple way: it must be neutered. Gelding more accommodating. You can literally lead him by the nose; he will do what you tell him, without expressing any protest.
With it you will have only one problem: the gelding is not able to give life. He can not do what can stallion. Yes, stallion - a dangerous animal, but if you need a life he can give, you need to accept the fact that he is dangerous. One does not exist without the other ... "

Appreciate in men of their virility. And help them to become stronger and braver. There is nothing wrong in the fact that he did not wash the dishes at home. Buy a dishwasher - or learn to love the process. Suppose he does male things that without it no one will do. Things that fill it with strength and energy.
Source: top.thepo.