The victim or victor? Choose your destiny Bashny.Net

Have you ever observed in the circle of acquaintances such fate, which attract a variety of failures and trouble? Not for nothing we are talking about some of the others: "Thirty-three misfortunes." Others, however, if programmed for success. Luck seemed very hands floats: the right person is found at the very time when he and only he can solve the problem, the premium unexpectedly suddenly falls from the sky down ... So, Her Majesty The fate governs us, and yet we do it to his tame?

Do you notice in an emergency or simply in a difficult situation, you say to yourself, predicting the outcome of events? Whether to pay attention to what words and how to criticize themselves when setbacks and missteps? After all, the failure to have everyone, regardless of the success or failure of our career, training, income and mistakes of a material nature.

Here and the fun begins. After a successful person is different from the failure not on the peak of fame, and "in his prime." Just a reaction to the failure of any business or any endeavor that distinguishes radically successful person from ever unfortunate "martyr».

Here it is manifested the most important and fundamental that all behavior is the basis of personality. This vital position. The position of the winner or the victim's position. To be or not to be a victim of circumstances - 99, 9% of our choice

. "Victim" in their behavior certainly rolled into certain stereotypes, which ultimately led her to fail.

Let's try to highlight a few of these stereotypes:

• The habit of blaming the people around them and everything in their misfortunes. Weather, traffic, traffic jams, bad boss and so on -.. Everything is hostile, all hinders and hurts the poor

«sacrifice». • passivity and inaction at the time of danger and failure. Instead of searching for solutions and creative approach to his life and his destiny man shows activity only in one direction: it actively does not want to solve the question arose

. • belief in his own inability to decide anything, confidence in the failure of any idea.

• Finding ways to ... no, not solutions, and ways of avoiding problems. The desire to escape, to turn away from the situation arisen.

At heart, the person who takes such a position is, in most cases, low self-esteem. The roots of this -. In the distant past, they "come from childhood»

When we scold the child for a mistake and still and compare it with others peers, we are forming in it the germs of the undervaluation of themselves and their actions. Moreover, the child gets used to fear their own mistakes, he is afraid to make mistakes. But no wonder they say: "Do not be mistaken only one who does nothing»

. In order not to kill the creativity that brings each of our mistake is to think about how what words and actions, we react to it. After all, in fact, a man - a system of self-regulating and self-learning error for such a system - a gift from above. Yes, do not be surprised. At the time, we learn to walk with you could only thanks to the fact that it is not afraid of a few, very unpleasant and painful falls.

In the distant tender age, even without being able to doubt their own abilities, we did not say to myself, "I can not" - and asked, "how can I?". Even then, the moment of creation, transforming passive failure in the active setting winner, was available to each of us. It does not lead you to this thought in awe: programmed for success we all, absolutely all, without exception

! Many years ago, together with forensic psychologists and sociologists conducted a study, the results of which is very, very instructive. A large group of subjects were asked to withdraw from a large crowd of a large store. They were photographed. Then, this photo has been offered a group of psychologists who have tried to draw a conclusion about the features of the personality of each and identify the kind of "risk group" - people who are particularly vulnerable to a variety of troubles, accidental injury, assault with intent to rob, etc.

.. On the other hand, the same picture was offered and those who accepted to be isolated from society "places not so remote," that is, the representatives of the criminal environment. Pickpockets, all sorts of crooks, maniacs and criminals of all categories were intuitively identify a potential victim. This is where something amazing happened:

• First, both lists practically coincided with each other;

• Second, a group of people was studied for some time under the supervision of, and events in their lives have confirmed "predicted destiny" in such a high percentage that is almost an accident has been ruled out.

The conclusion: our bodies, our thoughts, our decisions and, as a result, all of our actions on the known universe language send the invisible but very strong signals. These signals are being reflected back to us in the form of actual results and events, which we take for gifts or blows of fate. Whenever complaining of bad weather or other "accidental" in trouble, do not forget: The Universe hears you and is ready to respond to your every word. How does this word will be: dissatisfied grumbling or light and creatively configured

Choice - is always yours!