If you don'T like – so you DANGEROUS love! Bashny.Net

Despite the fact that looking around, we find people who almost any point in their life can find someone in a pair, more or less successful, but almost never lonely. And we, as simple people casting a cursory glance, I can see quite a lot of men and women, which usually most of his life outside of the relationship. Even if the second fails for a short time to create a desired relationship, so that they fall into the short-term experiment, which catapult throws one of the partners, and these relationships break up.

 





Why is this happening?

The main claim of women — not enough love. “Nobody loves me”, or “I'm not so fond of”, or “wrong love”, or not the way is not so intense, not selfless enough...

So often men jumping on top of relations give this same formula. That's not the kind of love, not of the quality that was to be — not like them as they would like.

Here I want to clarify that if you fail to create a warm relationship that is analogous to what is called love, then, probably, you love dangerous. If you dangerous love, it turns out that you have reasons to be with you is worse than without you.

After all, any relationship, be it relationship men and women, relations or friends (except the relationship of parents and child, when the child is just nowhere to go) created conditions in which better with you than without you.

The man stays with the woman he is better, than without it. The woman remains with the man, with whom it is better than without it.

And there will be no recommendations on how to be comfortable. Article aims to draw attention to what's inside you can be something that you can do uncomfortable subject for love.

Here you can split the "inconvenient" people in several categories.

The first is very demanding, those who do not.

These — always know "what" and "how it should be." Demanding people, they are also perfectionists who "know" what should be done, how, in what sequence and at what time. They ensure that all lay on the shelves in the literal and figurative sense, and all the rituals were observed.

These people are the same swift and purposeful in choosing a partner or partner, they already have in my head the picture of an ideal self-image and lifestyle of being a couple.

From demanding person is not enough free energy to consider the needs and pattern partner. He had no time, he hurries faster to do "homework" – to bring to life the image of a perfect relationship, wanting to use the resource partner (partner) to meet their own ambitions. From demanding people have a problem is running away from the “here and now”, and, as a consequence, there is ingratitude for what is.

In this case, the key that opens the doors to harmonious relationships, there is gratitude.

The second category of people who are dangerous to love is a boring perfectionist. They have attention to details and nuances cannot be considered constructive relations in General, it is difficult for them as in the proverb "beyond the trees to see the forest". In this case, the crushing and obsasyvanie detail that creates a situation for the partner, which he doesn't feel that with him are in contact and he respected. In a pair the man feels secondary on the background of all the nuances and details that are so important picky partner.

The third category of people who are inconvenient to love is too self-critical people, which is present chronic dissatisfaction, and worst option that, when all thoughts are handed out. In this case, we have such a chronic whiner, and he raises such topics in which his partner cannot help him.

If the whiner, a woman, a man, nearby, and hearing about her dissatisfaction, she feels ineffective. Listening to the nagging of his wife or his girlfriend that she's overweight, under-eye circles that she broke a nail or that her figure she has nothing to wear — a number of such tragedies for women, which man cannot solve in any way.

And if those tragedies made out a lot, the man feels useless, because he can't help the person in trouble. That is why overly self-critical people do not find good relations — they have to imagine is not good. And then they will try, rooted in relations and finally assigning a partner to find fault with him. So we come to the fourth type does not bad partners for long-term Union.

The fourth category — people whoconstantly want to bring your partner, indicate the shortcomings, want to improve it.... These are explicit or hidden guru. Type "teacher of Junior classes", brought to life. Instead enjoy the relationship and thank the person next, they generate a field in which they think they have the right and need to constantly specify the partner on its shortcomings and imperfections, despite the fact of life that the ideal is not achievable.

This raises the situation of denying that what is now is a partner, absolutely enough to have with him a harmonious relationship. Therefore, these "teachers" with their attempts to help form a sense of inferiority. And these "gurus" then often get offended then the whole world, because they not grateful were those whom they were trying to educate.

The fifth category – careerists. Careerists — is, of course, those people who are too busy. If you are a business man, very active and highly creatively occupied, then you can be an uncomfortable person for a relationship due to the fact that the partner is difficult to find a place in your schedule.

Then, a well-planned time partner seeks out a place for themselves. There may be a situation where his sudden appearance or failure to call a business person can not rejoice. But if we are not in joy to someone, and his passion is a joy to us, well... From such a relationship and do not mind to leave.

But if a business person really loves his job, lives it, it's probably like any other person with the Path, he will be charismatic and extremely interesting to the opposite sex. And, therefore, is unlikely to be alone. Around such burning love, there will always be people, because he's chronically in love, albeit sometimes only in my case.

What should I do? Here I shall be brief. I say again: we create relationships with those with whom we are better than without them.





So who is better? And What we ideally want from a relationship?

The perfect relationship, strange as it may sound, are not to close our needs in a warm, caring, recognition, to complete the picture of the world to each other about the perfect life in a couple and have children. No.

These warm relations are created from excess. When in you there is completeness. In you there is the fullness, as a result, independently of distance traveled, independent of the ability to create in others and to draw in the world. Feed yourself with light and learning to ignite from life, now we will be able to share the inspiration and love of his life.

Then in a relationship you also continue to grow, but your commitment to excellence, your attention to detail and your self-criticism are for the most part of your inner alchemical reality. You're saving your partner from having to pour it all your stages of growth, and to stun him with a semi-private agony.

You can, of course, to consult and share, but not necessarily to devote the middle in all the vicissitudes of his internal dialogue, filling all the space around, forcing his world and tiring yourself.

Much more constructive issue in the field of relations a useful result, the withdrawal opening. Then you can ripen the situation when you have the energy so much that she wants to share — because real strength and confidence we give it the finished work generated insights and opinions to yourself — the Affairs of these private and backed up.

Now, the most beautiful relationships are created as the most wonderful things, and the body is made out of whim, which literally means – “I want it”.

Here, in spite of everything, I'm just so eager and ready to go. That kind of relationship — the warmest. Because such a partner is perceived as a gift, as a miracle! And oddly enough, these relationships happen, but "backdating", the closure of many of our needs that we ourselves can successfully close. Here, all that comes from the other, is perceived as a miracle — without expectations, as generosity, as a gift.

If you can honestly admit to ourselves that there is most needs in the security, Finance, love for yourself from yourself, in a self-defined confidence are not closed, just be prepared that the relationship will not develop smoothly.

If a person is bad with yourself in the frame it will only get worse — give yourself this report.

So it would be good to grow themselves up more or less one piece adult. Much the environment will be a worthy partner to offer not prefabricated for himself and improved from the time of puberty, brushed inner work version of yourself. Creating themselves regarding childhood, a more holistic self-contained, bright and light, then your pair without clashing and without chipping on children's expectations and resentment, there is love and freedom in its fullness and its multivariate abundance.

Created relationships out of curiosity and even out of whim, not a relationship of fear, as no place of concern and worry that something is not enough to each other.

Keeping relationship solid is relatively self realized and self-sufficient person, you will have enough energy to be surprised and to surprise. To love and accept each other with all its depth, for the entire span of your soul. Don't be afraid to scare the other, his sincere feelings: the exuberant joy or anger, enthusiasm or sadness — detecting different faces in himself and in others — not to stop wondering, and allowing the other to be natural, unexpected, different, new.

Remember,relationships are primarily created for joy and pleasure. Life is not happening out of fear. Fear is survival is hard and that want to be away. Life is joy, and it is primarily the abundance of light and lightness. Because all that basically brings light and lightness draws, positioning for a relationship. Become light and you will be happy.

Author: Natalia Walicka, especially for

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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